I'm here again.
I have posted a fair few times about my MIL.
We have been NC for about 3 months. We explained we wanted somesort of closure from her. An apology, accept responserbility...nothing.
DH and I was getting married in December, however we've had a re-think and we have booked a date in April
we was in two minds wheather to invite her or not. We decided against it but we both wanted the chance for MIL to build some bridges so we gave her a 'nudge.' stupid i know.
So after NC for 3 months, we texted and told her about the date, that we was hoping by then she would of understood our reasons etc...she then asked what 'we' had done wrong and she wanted us to explain (this is the 2nd time now, we have explained and still no apology!) so DH sent a long heartfelt message about her actions, how she allways makes us feel guilty, she lets DD1 down (has only met DD2 twice!). and lots of other things...no reply...an hour later she asks 'what happends now'...completley ingored the previous message.
We was both pretty angry so we left it.
She messaged yesterday saying we had told her about the wedding and she asked what happens now and we havn't replied.
She has again, completley ignored our message. Any nornal person would say sorry? Maybe say she hadn't realised what she waa dpin? Things will change from now on? But nothing. Completley fobbed us off
Its been 3 months. If we didnt text her about the wedding DH has said she wouldnt of bothered to message us at all and the 'fued' would go on for months.
Im shocked at the lack of human emotion from her. She has made no effort, we messaged her and without her doing anything she expects things to go back to normal. I feel so utterly stupid for thinking again, she would change.
Do we reply to her message? Is there a point? She never listens. Shall we just ignore? I've told DH that i have washed my hands off her, never again. I actually feel ready for NC because we have tried, hell will freeze over before i beg for an apology.
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I just feel so stupid. (Toxic MIL related)
MommyBird · 17/11/2013 07:56
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