I am gay, in a happy long term relationship and we have kids.
My father has never really come to terms with it, but we don't talk about his lack of acceptance. His difficult in many ways - not just my perception but all in the family agree. I have the most difficult relationship with him though because of the sexuality issue, and I don't pander to him as much as the others do.
Parents always stay in a hotel when they come to stay, but next visit all are booked up. Email exchange I say why don't you stay with us. Mother replies "your father coesn't feel comfortable, let's leave it at that"
I don't want to leave it a that. He does something hurtful/offensive/attention seeking every couple of months and we have a big blow up. I am sick of appeasing and enabling his shitty, selfish and controlling behaviour.
I want to email back and ask exactly what he's uncomfortable with, but I think it is very likely to blow up badly.
Do I suck it up?
I am just so sick of being hurt and swallowing my feeling for the sake of family harmony, I don't feel like letting this one go.
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