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Disappointed - parents subsidise one sibling & family but not others

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Greatdomestic Sat 19-Oct-13 15:59:41

Hi all. I am a long term lurker an occasional poster. I can't really discuss this in rl so thought I'd ask for some opinions on this.

I am the youngest of 3 siblings, married, 1 DC. My DH & I have an ok lifestyle but nothing flash.

During a conversation with my DM yesterday, it has emerged that she and my DF when he was alive has been financially supporting my oldest sibling, DP & 3 kids. They both work, live in a large 4 bed detached house, 2 cars and can afford a cleaner every week.

I'm stunned. My other sibling & I get none of this. On the one hand I think my parents should spend their ££ however they want. On the other, I feel really let down for both me & other sibling. But maybe the oldest thinks we all get this.

For example, a few years ago, we decided as a family that we would all only get presents for the kids at Christmas, not siblings and that my parents would just get for the kids too, and maybe a token for the adults. So last Christmas, my DM gave me some nice smellies, my DH some chocs he likes and my DC a nice present. Which is lovely. However she gave my eldest sibling and family £500 between them. Apparently because they don't have much. We are all in our 50s btw.

Thoughts appreciated, I guess I just need to let it go.

struggling100 Tue 22-Oct-13 10:35:50

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

struggling100 Tue 22-Oct-13 10:43:34

Ooops, posted too soon. I should add that I really love my parents, and now wouldn't want this any other way! The older I get, the less it seems like this kind of thing matters - time matters, people matter, the number of bedrooms in your house doesn't!

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