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Husband railroading me into moving in with his mother for a few months

(28 Posts)
seoladair Thu 03-Oct-13 00:27:21

Our house purchase has been very tricky and I have posted about the practical and financial questions associated with it.

Another problem is that, as we will probably have be homeless for 6-8 weeks at least (or possibly even longer if the vendor continues to be tricky), and my husband had agreed we would rent somewhere as I had made clear I couldn't live with MIL.

While I was away he got bounced into increasing our offer on the property, and has offered all the money that would have covered rent to the vendor. (Nothing signed yet, so we are not committed, but still it's going to be harder to negotiate down again)

He is now away on a work trip and has been sending me bullying texts all day saying that me and our toddler have to move in with his mother.
I'm not intending this to be a MIL-bashing thread - suffice to say I tried living there 2 years ago when our child was a small baby, and it was a nightmare. I still feel distressed by it, and couldn't contemplate going there. MIL's own daughter is almost estranged from her, and MIL shouted aggressively and hysterically at me last summer in front of my then 15 month-old baby. The thought of going back into all that just makes me want to weep.

DH said I should write a list of all the things I dislike about being there, and MIl will try to improve. I think that is an appalling idea.

I feel as though this will tear apart our marriage, which is awful as the only time we ever exchange cross words is when there is something involving his mother.

seoladair Fri 04-Oct-13 09:27:23

my husband and i are both freelance so our daughter will be OK - partly cared for by us, and also in the hotel room by a babysitter who has known her since she was about 3 months old, so I'm not worried about that. MIL worries me more, as she has been very careless with my daughter in the past, but that's a different thread.

Re the house move; I have been extremely involved, and was negotiating the lease extension business. I was being very careful about it, and was holding the offer of more money in reserve as I though if we gave too much away to the estate agent they would push for every last penny. It was while I was away that DH caved in. I have just seen another property on zoopla that ticks lots of boxes, so will inquire today, and hopefully we can walk away from this quagmire!

perfectstorm Fri 04-Oct-13 19:57:27

Oh, I'll cross fingers for you, OP!

Lweji Fri 04-Oct-13 21:22:26

Here too.
In all fronts. smile

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