He has a long-term live in girlfriend, she is married with a toddler and is pregnant. They have been good friends for many, many years but have also shared a few kisses when they were flatmates at uni when they were both single.
They meet up occasionally for coffee and a chat. The both genuinely enjoy these meetings as they can talk about anything. The thing is that sometimes, when he has been drinking, he sends her messages that are inappropriate. I get the feeling that he is confused about what he feels for her.
Things he has said include:
-she is a very close friend to him, he likes her as a person and wouldn't want to lose the friendship but he also has a strong sexual desire for her that drives him crazy
-nobody has ever gotten under his skin so much and induced feelings of such intensity, whether it is sexual desire, jealousy or affection
-he realises that wanting her in this way is wrong as they are both in relationships but when it comes to her, potential consequences don't register
If you had a friend who told you he feels like this about someone who is not his partner, what would you think? That he is actually in love with this friend but doesn't want to admit it to himself and/or her? Or is it possible to really just want to be friends with somebody while feeling this way about them?
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What do you make of his comments about "this friendship"?
ConfusedFriend2 · 23/08/2013 21:45
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