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Am so angry with BF

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plopp · 21/08/2013 22:17

Wanted to finish with him tonight as been upset for 3 days.
He is a typical French country man - divorced but badly burned= his kids live with him.
We got together after being friends for some years and he was very sweet, reliable and fun.
The other night he had his friends around for dinner - no invite for me - this has happened a few times - unless I happen to be there then he expects me to stay.
So I am upset - tonight I ask him to come round for a chat - after dinner he said but looking worried as I know he has sensed I am peeved off. He went off in his tractor after dinner and I am waiting for him to return in his van. Anyway after waiting a few hours I see he has parked his van outside his house which he never does, We live in a hamlet and he parks outside his mums.
And he has been sweet and friendly since Monday as I know he thinks he has done nothing wrong but now he , after assesing my mood and my asking him to come over for a chat, he has sneakily parked where I would not hear him.
I do love him but him not inviting me for various dinners has got my goat.
He does a lot for me but ~I don tknow!!

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forumdonkey · 21/08/2013 22:20

Sorry OP but why do you think that you should be invited to all his dinners? Is it not unreasonable that he may just want an night with his friends?

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lookingfoxy · 21/08/2013 22:23

Don't you ever do things with your friends without him?
I wouldn't worry about it tbh.

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Fairenuff · 21/08/2013 22:24

I'm with donkey, is he not allowed a life of his own?

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plopp · 21/08/2013 22:32

I do do things without him but when I have a do here #I always invite him, One example I was abroad for 2 weeks came back for 2 weeks then I popped round to him and he wa preparing a dinner for night and kept topping up my glass and I knew from experience he expected me to stay. But I left then he came to me and said 'are you angry with me' and I said 'of course because you always never inviteme andhesaid of course you are invited, I make an extra place!!

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str8tothepoint · 22/08/2013 17:14

Get over it, seriously

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runningonwillpower · 22/08/2013 17:18

If everything else in the relationship is good I really wouldn't break up over this.

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Littleen · 22/08/2013 17:27

Agreeing with the rest of responders, perhaps you need to find more things of your own to do, then it won't feel like such a big deal. If you lived together, it would be a given, but not if you don't.