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Am so angry with BF

(14 Posts)
plopp Wed 21-Aug-13 22:17:34

Wanted to finish with him tonight as been upset for 3 days.
He is a typical French country man - divorced but badly burned= his kids live with him.
We got together after being friends for some years and he was very sweet, reliable and fun.
The other night he had his friends around for dinner - no invite for me - this has happened a few times - unless I happen to be there then he expects me to stay.
So I am upset - tonight I ask him to come round for a chat - after dinner he said but looking worried as I know he has sensed I am peeved off. He went off in his tractor after dinner and I am waiting for him to return in his van. Anyway after waiting a few hours I see he has parked his van outside his house which he never does, We live in a hamlet and he parks outside his mums.
And he has been sweet and friendly since Monday as I know he thinks he has done nothing wrong but now he , after assesing my mood and my asking him to come over for a chat, he has sneakily parked where I would not hear him.
I do love him but him not inviting me for various dinners has got my goat.
He does a lot for me but ~I don tknow!!

forumdonkey Wed 21-Aug-13 22:20:48

Sorry OP but why do you think that you should be invited to all his dinners? Is it not unreasonable that he may just want an night with his friends?

lookingfoxy Wed 21-Aug-13 22:23:40

Don't you ever do things with your friends without him?
I wouldn't worry about it tbh.

Fairenuff Wed 21-Aug-13 22:24:46

I'm with donkey, is he not allowed a life of his own?

plopp Wed 21-Aug-13 22:32:29

I do do things without him but when I have a do here #I always invite him, One example I was abroad for 2 weeks came back for 2 weeks then I popped round to him and he wa preparing a dinner for night and kept topping up my glass and I knew from experience he expected me to stay. But I left then he came to me and said 'are you angry with me' and I said 'of course because you always never inviteme andhesaid of course you are invited, I make an extra place!!

str8tothepoint Thu 22-Aug-13 17:14:40

Get over it, seriously

runningonwillpower Thu 22-Aug-13 17:18:36

If everything else in the relationship is good I really wouldn't break up over this.

Littleen Thu 22-Aug-13 17:27:27

Agreeing with the rest of responders, perhaps you need to find more things of your own to do, then it won't feel like such a big deal. If you lived together, it would be a given, but not if you don't.

Onesleeptillwembley Thu 22-Aug-13 17:30:50

Finish with him - let him find someone who will let him live his life. Seriously, you sound awful.

OctopusPete8 Thu 22-Aug-13 17:33:09

has he never invited or not invited a few times?

in these dinners are the other mens partners there?

mammadiggingdeep Thu 22-Aug-13 17:40:44

I dont get it??? Why are u bothered? Is it all men at these dinners?

mummytime Belgium Thu 22-Aug-13 17:55:42

Do you want to be Nancy Mitford?

WhiteandGreen Thu 22-Aug-13 19:10:49

It sounds like as you're his GF he doesn't feel you need a formal invite.

BitOutOfPractice Netherlands Thu 22-Aug-13 19:13:59

I'm sorry I'm confused. You're annoyed that he just expects you to stay rather than a formal invite?

you sound a bit needy / over analytical tbh

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