I've been with DP ten years. We were high school sweethearts. We got married last year and have a nine month old son together. Since DS came along things have changed and I'm worried about where we are heading. I have tried discussing it with DP but he is keen to assure me all is fine.
He is staying late at work more and more. He has quite a high powered job and always has done a fair amount of overtime but now it is most nights instead of perhaps a couple of times a week. Pre DS he used to be keen for us to have 'quality time' together at weekends and would rarely go out without me. Now he is out almost every Saturday without fail, drinking with friends and sometimes work mates. He will come home in the early hours and on two occasions has not come home at all. When I called him his phone was switched off. When he eventually arrived home he claimed his battery was dead and he had been so drunk he crashed at a friends house for which he apologised profusely. Same excuse both times. The most recent time was last weekend.
I don't think he's cheating. He absolutely abhors people who cheat and I do trust him. But I don't feel like we're a proper family or that he wants to be around us which really hurts. We still have not started having sex regularly again since DS was born and I think this has pushed him away but however hard I try I can't re-establish the connection we had.
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DP distant since we had baby
aussiesummer · 18/08/2013 13:28
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