Have very good friend who has been good to me. She has had a rough time and her marriage has fallen apart.....its been awful to see her so torn apart by it all. They have 2 young children. I think I have been there for her - lots of bairn minding, etc which is only what I want to do.
Feeling slightly confused and really want to put it back on track. I think she sees me as a shoulder to cry on but not someone socialise with at other times - if I ring her she only returns the call when she wants to meet up - can be days later. Doesn't invite me to anything with some other mummy friends like lunch etc. Ohh a few smaller things I find a bit ooh selfish.
I really don't want to feel like this as I like the girl, more than like probably. I feel awful saying it, but it is getting in the way of the way I think about her if that makes sense. Anyone anything similar? Sorry. Having bad day and this just seems to be upsetting me today (along with some photos from a wedding a went to a while back and I look abso bloody lutely awful......I want to be somebody else pls..........................moan moan whinge whine
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niceglasses · 31/05/2006 15:31
I have a really good friend like this. She is there for me too but we don't always socialise together. I think you have different friends for different purposes. I have some I like to club with but wouldn't trust them iykwim? I have some I love to have a meal with but wouldn't swear or talk dirty with 
Then there are the fun mates 
And at least 3 I could trust with anything which is good but a shame as you should be able to trust your mates but I've found from experience you can't. I suppose gossip is human nature?
Anyway, don't worry too much as I'm sure she likes you. Could you maybe invite her out for a drink or round to yours for a curry and beer?
Oh and about feeling you look awful, we all get that. People tell us we look good but we're our own worst critic. I always look like sh!t when I'm due my period 
I prefer women's company but I know I can be a bit OTT for some people. I tend to get on better with extroverts myself. Most people can cope with me in small doses but that's ok
Do you ever go to mumsnet meet ups? I haven't personally.
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