My DP of 18 months has been chatting on FB with another woman. I am not sure if it is something I should be concerned about or not. I discovered this last week when he left his FB page open on my laptop (it is always open, he doesn't log out, but does anything good ever come from snooping? Its the first time and I really wasn't expecting to find anything). He spends a lot of time on-line, and chats with lots of different friends, as most are overseas. I see that he has been messaging this person on and off for the past few months, usually once a week, with a 'hi how are you' all very innocent.
Then a couple of weeks ago it became a bit more frequent, 3-4 days a week for a couple of hours at a time and they are now exchanging songs and talking about more 'stuff'. The songs that he sends her are ones that I know he loves, heavy rock, but also some lovely dovey stuff and he is asking her what she thinks about the lyrics. I know he likes this woman as a friend, he met her though work and although they work for the same organisation, they are in separate departments and work different shifts most of the time. I work with her two evenings a week. I have always though that she was very nice. A very kind and warm person and everyone likes her. She is married with two young children and I think she is enjoying the attention she is getting from my DP, as she is home with the kids during the day and her DH is at work.
My relationship with my DP is good. I have never had any reason not to trust him and him me. He is flirty and has lots of other friends both IRL and online male and female and I have no idea what they chat about, but I have always trusted him. So this has flumoxed me and I am just not sure what to do. Should I let it go and hope it fizzles out - is it every innocent to chat so much on-line with another woman? Or admit to him that I snooped and it makes me feel uncomfortable knowing that they are exchanging these songs and chatting?? I have thought about saying something to her - asking her how she would feel if her DH was doing the same with another woman.
Perhaps I am just being paranoid and I should just forget that I looked.
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Is chatting on-line ever innocent?
stickytoffee00 · 06/06/2013 09:45
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