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Need some advice please x

(29 Posts)
topknob Thu 23-May-13 21:28:38

Can anyone tell me if the advanced safari search thing on an iPad shows sites which have defiantly been visited? I checked dh's earlier and it listed pof, eharmony and zoosk along with Skype and some dodgy sex webcam thingy. Things haven't been good for a while, he is quite ea at times. However he is denying visiting these sites, but has no interest in trying to sort this out. Any ideas? Thank you X

Yearofme Thu 23-May-13 21:30:02

He's visited those sites. And he's EA and he's not fussed about sorting this out.

You are worth more

Leave the bastard

topknob Thu 23-May-13 21:42:29

Has he definitely visited those sites though ? I am thinking he did as there were three of them hmm

Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme Thu 23-May-13 21:45:31

They only come up in the search box or history if they've been typed in. Which was it, search or history?seems fairly likely though of they've been specifically typed in. Can you check the browser history or has it been cleared?

topknob Thu 23-May-13 22:02:35

History cleared as was set to private now changed that. This was under the advanced safari settings.

Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme Thu 23-May-13 22:23:04

Does look a bit suspicious. You could leave it and see if anything else comes up?

Distrustinggirlnow Thu 23-May-13 22:28:28

I'm fairly sure if they're there then the sites have been visited, but I'm not sure if it tells you when they were visited.

Can u look on pof and see if he's there or PM me and I'll look

Sorry he doesn't seem to want to resolve this

topknob Fri 24-May-13 05:55:18

Have looked but cannot find him on any of them.

AuntieStella Fri 24-May-13 06:51:16

Yes?

Go into "settings" and select "safari" in there, which brings up options on the right hand side of the screen.
Select "advanced"
Select "website data"

Btw: this also brings up the option of "clear website data" so if he doesn't know about this function, by showing him, you might also be teaching him to cover his tracks.

topknob Fri 24-May-13 07:31:22

Have done that, which is how I found them, but does it mean he has definatley visited those sites, do you know????

AnyFucker Fri 24-May-13 07:39:58

why would they even come up if he hadn't visited the sites ?

they don't type themselves in remotely

sorry, love....those are not a good combination of "light reading" for any partner to find

topknob Fri 24-May-13 07:51:12

It really is one thing after another with him. He is really pissing me off this morning as he keeps laughing at things I say and when I asked him not too he just says stop saying things I find funny then. He is being an arse. He reused to talk to me earlier as I said I had busted him. He said if I used busted again he would refuse to talk.

manticlimactic Fri 24-May-13 08:01:50

He sounds like a childish cock even without the odd website visits.

Could he have clicked on adverts whilst playing games on the iPad? That <may> account for it in the history but not in the search bar.

What do you get out of this relationship now?.

Those websites do not get there remotely; he has typed them in.

Why are you still together?.

CogitoErgoSometimes Fri 24-May-13 09:04:25

Why are you working so hard to prove he's a dickhead when you know he's one already? Find the self-respect to tell Mr Laughing Hyena to leave...

topknob Fri 24-May-13 10:04:34

I did last night, he has gone to work. He is being so rude to me rather than trying to sort it out.

ladyjadie Fri 24-May-13 10:25:41

It's a bit hard to accidentally have all those sites in your history. Maybe if it was just one, maybe.

He'd have to think very little of your IQ to expect you to believe that every one of those is a pop up.

topknob Fri 24-May-13 10:52:43

I did say that as well, one maybe I could understand was incorrect but not all of those. His whole behaviour is odd about it. He sat there going through all his data saying what sites he'd been on and which he hadn't.

topknob Sun 26-May-13 00:35:18

So found out dh had been on 3 dating sites, he denies this. Now he can' t work out why I am so upset about that and the fact he wanted me to go dogging. Which I refused. And how that ties into the alleged dating sites. I feel so worthless and unwanted. Why am I not good enough? Oh and to add the web cam sex he wanted to do recentlybas well. Apparently he is just being adventurous. And he is not unreasonable. hmm

Leverette Sun 26-May-13 00:44:06

Tell him you'll go dogging, tell him to get thermos out of the boot, drive off leaving him there. Job done.

suburbophobe Sun 26-May-13 05:25:02

grin

Brilliant idea!

Buzzardbird Sun 26-May-13 05:53:17

Oh, he has a lot o respect for you doesn't he? He sounds a real catch. If it smells like a rat its a rat.
Do better for yourself, let him catch std's on his own.

topknob Sun 26-May-13 08:49:03

Apparently he has done nothing wrong, it can't see my issue and is now turning it around on me that it is all my decision if he leaves or not. I actually feel I do hate him at the moment.

ColinCaterpillar Sun 26-May-13 08:53:33

More ways in which he is abusive - sexually by trying to force you to do things you don't want to, gas lighting by trying to trick you and deny reality and emotionally by not allowing you to be upset/express your feelings/mocking your feelings. All part of the package of an EA twunt.

onenutshortofasnickers Sun 26-May-13 09:49:40

you do not want to work anything out with this.... 'man'.

you want to LTB. and now. if he is ea ring womans aid. neber go to joint councelling with this...'man' either.

He is lying- af is right, a computer/ipad/ipod/phone etc will not search them itself and cannot accidentalky be clicked on.

Tbh, Im more worried about the ea. Thats worse than his imternet history right now, what is his treatment of you like?

If you are gonna leave this emotionally abusive bastard don't tell him anythimg. Quietly make your plans and leave. Say nothing.

xxx

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