First post... please be gentle and bear with me while I try and explain
My husband and I have been married for nearly 4 years. Ostensibly we are perfect for each other. I have had a few issues with certain things though.I don't feel he is ever romantic in the ways that would really make me happy. I have always said how things like flowers really make me feel happy and appreciated - I have said that being sent flowers to work is the apotheosis of romance. Despite this, I could count on the fingers of one hand I have ever got flowers in 6 years (and certainly none to work). Valentines Day - nothing. Our last anniversary - nothing ('I didn't think we would do anything after 3 years'). He later took me to a pub for a meal - I came back alone because he saw friends there. Wedding Day - nothing. Our honeymoon I booked, planned, packed for and paid for alone. He spent 2 weeks doing organised stuff (e.g. 2 games of volleyball a day, every day). He insisted on going for a swim every day at around 7am. When i said, at around day 4, that I was really unhappy, nothing changed.
The problem is I have been really clear and said that thoughtful romantic things would make the world of difference to me. He doesn't do them. So, wheareas before i thought just maybe he didn't think like that, now I just feel that he knows he could so so easily make me happy and he just doesn't. It is really making me miserable (he knows this - he watched me cry on Valentine's Day). He can be thoughtful in his own way - he bought a dress I was watching on ebay the other day.
Writing this down all seems so petty. But I just feel like I'm not worth the effort.
Sorry it it is really long.
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TeeManyMartoonis · 20/05/2013 18:34
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