After falling out with, or rather being fallen out with by my sister around Christmas (again) and finding her one of the most unsupportive people I know, and now finding that despite the fact she doesn't have very long to live, I don't want to go and see my grandmother - I'm just starting to think, what is the whole thing about loving your family?
Why do we/why do most people want to defend, and spend time with, the people related to them?
Is this something I'm missing? I have much nicer friends tbh than some of my relations. Though I am close with my parents, in a way, and we help each other when we can.
It's pretty sad really isn't it, that I don't even want to visit my own Granny...I feel HORRIBLY guilty about it and have done for many years, and it's only been the last year that I stopped going, because frankly I find it so upsetting.
she is old, she can be lovely, but often she makes people really uncomfortable, and I just can't handle it.
Is it more important to go, see them, spend time with them even if you feel like they hate you, or to build bridges elsewhere and forget it?
I'm interested in opinions, I have to go and paint something in the garden but I will be checking back if anyone feels like commenting.
Thankyou x
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I'm starting to wonder...why is 'family' so important?
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RooneyMara · 06/05/2013 14:36
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