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Dating thread no 51

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All tales of online and real life dating here!

The Rules

1 Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. If it is not fun, stop

Bant Sat 13-Apr-13 13:13:59

Juliette - sorry to hear you had a shitty time. What a dick. If you want to glean a positive out of it, you reported him so hopefully he'll have less chance to prey on people more vulnerable than you. You made the world a slightly better place for other women. Obviously it's crap that you went through that but there is a very small silver lining maybe.

No dating news from me, I've been in the US all week, my feet hurt from standing at a booth at a conference, trying to snag passers-by and from going to meeting to meeting to meeting for several days. Just got the weekend to kill before flying back tomorrow night. Haven't seen my DC in a week and a half as my Ex has taken them overseas for holidays. Meh.

Buffy and I have whatsapped sporadically, and I keep getting women winking and 'liking' me on my defunct Match profile, so I think I'll have to make it funct again soon so I can see what they look like. I'm not holding my breath though

WarmFuzzyFun Sat 13-Apr-13 13:27:36

Hi Bant, can I call you the 'International Man of Mystery'? Or 'The Globe Trotting Dater'?

I imagine it's not just the not seeing the children but feeling/being so far away from them isn't fun at all.

You know Match and all the other dating sites use that defunct interest to get you to sign up again. Were you planning to sign up again anyway?

KinNora Sat 13-Apr-13 13:38:41

(It's sad how one's ability to recover after a few drinkies declines with age - takes more paracetemol)

Lubes - how are you getting on ? Feeling any more even tempered ? I'm seeing Showbiz next month when he comes dahn sarf to see his faaaaamily. He's planning to take me up West. ( This post sponsored by Double Entendres R Us )

Flipper some shoes are so beautiful that you just have to sit and gaze at them.

Pom you sound so much better, it's really good to hear.

Bant sounds like a bit of a dull week, shame you haven't met any golden Californian girls to fool around with while you were over there.

WFF think I'll attach my badge to one of my tartier bras.

Thanks Bant and everyone else on here who has been so understanding. The only place I could think to sit down after was the M&S customer collections area, the man behind the counter took it well blush. Thank goodness I made sure we met rather than just phone calls, otherwise I could have ended up with a string of odd messages/strange phone calls to a lunatic gradually beginning to wonder if it was me.

Bant Sat 13-Apr-13 13:40:05

Hi WFF - you can call me whatever you like smile

I got used to traveling a while ago. Sitting in hotel rooms trying to find an English language channel, taxi rides from airport to meeting to airport, it gets old quickly. Feeling far away from the DC is what I'm used to now anyway, with the move to Hungaria and all - it was being just down the road from them when they were at their mums and yet not seeing them because it wasn't 'my weekend' that was horrible. Hence the move away when the opportunity came up, as long as my new company would pay for my flights back to see the kids and would pay enough for me to keep 'their' bedroom in my flat in the UK.

I was on Match for 6 months, met the Artist, the Safrican, the Historian etc through it. So far OKC has been better but even though I live in a big city there are only a few english speaking women on the various sites so it's like living in a small town as far as choice goes. Match is a paid site so will presumably have more professional women on there who are more likely to speak English compared to OKC or POF. So I've been off Match for 4 months or so and keep getting views from the same women, some of them like me and wink at me, I just have to get round to paying and contacting them. As things with Buffy will end in a few weeks when she leaves the country I'm wondering how long to wait before I bother.

I don't actually miss Buffy that much - partially the fact I'm busy with work, partially that I haven't let myself get too attached because of the impending ending of it. It'll be nice to see her when I'm back, but all we can be is FWB.. Not what I was looking for, but far better than nothing

VelvetSpoon Sat 13-Apr-13 13:44:13

<waves to thread>

Hope everyone is having a lovely weekend so far.

I managed 8 hours sleep last night. Unfortunately between the hours of 4am and 12pm hmm. Not sure if that's progress or not, would be nice to go to bed at a normal time and not waste most of the day!

I have no plans for tonight, contacted one of my Essex friends on Thurs to tell her I was free today and did she want to arrange something. Got a reply yesterday saying she'd let me know...and nothing further. Looks like a night in on my own then. At least it's Dr Who night so not ALL bad!

KinNora Sat 13-Apr-13 13:48:09

< waves to Velvet, then collapses back onto sofa like a consumptive Victorian heroine >

lubeybooby Sat 13-Apr-13 13:48:34

<placemark>

TigsytheTiger Sat 13-Apr-13 14:15:41

Place mark too << whilst chucking the nurofen at kin>>

KirstyWirsty Sat 13-Apr-13 14:32:32

Marking my spot .. I have been invited to my sister's .. She took pity on me so going there for takeaway and a few drinks later ( meanwhile continue to work my was through laundry mountain)

OKC continues to be a non event .. The only visitors to my profile who look halfway decent are foreign and living abroad .. The local ones are a bunch of potatoes .. I think I will set up on POF again .. At least there was a bit of activity on there

KinNora Sat 13-Apr-13 15:25:38

And so my dreaded 'Too Much' panic alarm sounds, text from Showbiz, enquiring what train I'm catching tomorrow and then offering to drive over, pick me up and take me to the station. Makes me feel all claustrophobic.

Winefiend Sat 13-Apr-13 15:33:24

Aaah Nora, so very keen! grin

Amount of report words written out of a possible 2300 : 0. Oh well, I have had some very nice cups of tea and two highly enjoyable Oreos.

48howdidthathappen Sat 13-Apr-13 15:41:25

Afternoon smile

Date with Showbiz sounds fab Kin Has he said too much too soon?

Oww Get you with the 'too many men' grin

Hope you are feeling better after the toss pot experience juliette

Kirsty Toe sounds very painful.

I think I maybe getting soppy in my old age shock Mr R&R said to me last night "you have brought the smile back into my life". I felt all mushy. Someone shoot me.

Movingforward123 Sat 13-Apr-13 15:43:06

So I've been speaking to a new guy on Pof general chit chat which was fine! I've given him my number and now he said something about flirting with him! And only if I can handle him!

Do you think there's any polite way of saying "that all sounds like immature crap to me, I don't want to waste time flirting like kids! Im happy to chat to you to get to know you, but I'm not flirting with someone that I've never met"

Does it seem odd that the above is my outlook? Considering im on a dating site? grin

Pomegranatenoir Sat 13-Apr-13 15:44:16

48 I think I love r and r too!! He sounds like a smasher!! Enjoy

Kirsty hope you haven't got the post holiday blues. Get back in the horse I say and waste few hours on pof.

I'm packing for an overnighter. Hate packing. It's no easy task for 2 little ones and all my going out stuff!!

KirstyWirsty Sat 13-Apr-13 15:57:44

pom off somewhere nice?

48 I love it that you are being mushy and in love

I did have the blues .. Got the toenail removed and the rest of my feet sorted out and I am going to my sisters otherwise I would set up on POF .. Might do it next weekend

Sent MrCheeky an email back saying no I don't want him back that he blew it and I don't love him .. Hopefully he will get the message at last

Pomegranatenoir Sat 13-Apr-13 16:31:53

Kirsty Going into town for a girly night. It is well needed!! Glad you got your toe fixed. Sounds a bit ouchy!!

I have stupidly put a bit of tan on my legs and it looks awful!! Why do I do this. Should have got it done properly!!!!!!

lubeybooby Sat 13-Apr-13 16:33:44

Moving I love a good flirt me, all part of the process... so your objecting to it is a bit confusing. if you don't want to flirt with someone you clearly don't like or fancy them that much imho

I'm only uppity and non flirty like that with people who I'm not sure of... and it always turns out I was starting to 'settle' so then I just drop them.

KinNora Sat 13-Apr-13 16:53:11

48 watching the development of your relationship with R&R through your posts has been really sweet and touching, it's a beautiful, beautiful thang.

Wine how can cups of tea and Oreos not be counted as productive ?

Kirsty have a lovely time at your sister's.

Pom enjoy your night out, get your flirting pants on.

Moving even as The World's Worst Flirter ™, I enjoy a bit of flirting, maybe you should think of it as that word du jour 'banter' - you know, harmless chit chat that helps you get to know someone a little better while having fun.

Have told Showbiz that no, I don't want a lift tomorrow although I appreciate the offer. I think I've been made relationship phobic ( off to google if that is an actual thing )

KinNora Sat 13-Apr-13 16:56:11

Yup -gamophobia.

kin oh let him, its better than a mini cab you can snog at the station grin

KinNora Sat 13-Apr-13 17:22:28

Ah but you see it's not five minutes down the road for him, it's an hour across the Pennines and then another drive into the city centre, it's like he's my boyfriend -shudder. Although I see your snog point.

mercury7 Sat 13-Apr-13 17:25:36

Hello dating thread 51, not much to report with me, plus ca change plus le wotsit grin

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