I've posted on here about my abusive x. He was financially, emotionally, verbally and physically aggressive. I've gained a lot of clarity from posters on here over the 5 years.
Less than a year ago he said (not to me) that he'd no idea why I left. He couldn't understand it. Still sayin I was selfish to break up the family.
I got a fb message from a woman with no photo, it's not even her real fb. The name seems a bit fake. She (?) is asking me some questions, but also, seems quite controlling in that she is telling me how to answer them.
Directing me to answer truthfully, as though the most likely scenario is that I will lie to her, and also commanding me to answer yes or no. So it seems like a survey, very carefully crafted.
Obviously he's told her some utter bullshit about me being mentally ill and selfish. But the fact that she's fb'd me wanting to know "yes or no" did he ever hit you, some warning bell is ringing in her head. I don't want any woman, even a sneaky one who is talking down to me like I'm the one on trial to get sucked into a vortex of toxicity.
Can I send a message telling her yes he was verbally, financially and physically abusive, controlling, manipulative and a sulker, and then block her from replying to that message? Because I feel I want to warn her but I don't want her to come back to me and tell me she doesn't believe me, or come back defending him or making excuses for him.
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reply to a msg from abusive xh's new (?) gf, or not bother?
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MsWinkleman · 21/03/2013 10:11
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