hello. I'm new to the forums. for the past year, my oh has been distant. our relationship has been great at times, awful at others. we've been together nearly 11 years.
he has been very private, not wanted sex since august and reluctant to arrange anything in the future. I always dismissed an affair as I didn't think it was my husband's kind of thing and put it down to depression.
well, I finally found out last night he's been having an affair for about a year, by working out the password for his phone. he met her through work and for many months they just talked apparently. then in the summer they slept together. they've had sex no more than 12 times.
thing is, he's admitted that she's been like a counsellor to him. he didn't ask her to move in with him, but didn't not ask her. he said he told her he loved her, but that love was an infatuation thing, rather than a real thing.
he wants to give me space and see if I can forgive him as he doesn't want to leave me.
what do I do? I love this man and even when we had a heart to heart today all I wanted was us to kiss and him to hold me etc.
I don't want to split up, I just want him back. he's truly sorry.
I'm just so shocked x x
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moving on with dh after affair
1983mummy · 24/02/2013 18:22
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