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What 'signal' do you use to let your oh know you fancy getting jiggly?

(137 Posts)
janji Sat 16-Feb-13 21:53:30

Girls night in and discussing the subtle or not so subtle ways we all let our ohs know 'we're in the mood.' Must admit, after 19 yrs together mine is a simple 'you fancy a cuddle' (with raised eyebrows). Not exactly seductibpve I know!!

Lucylloyd13 Wed 20-Mar-13 15:46:33

I ask him whether he would like to feed the hedgehog?

Samu2 Thu 21-Mar-13 11:45:47

Last night I told him that I was giving him advance warning that I was going to screw him.

I am so romantic!!

NippyDrips Thu 21-Mar-13 12:06:13

Lmao at feed the hedgehog!

Dp has a very low sex drive so I tend not to say anything for fear of pressuring him.

MooMooSkit Thu 21-Mar-13 12:17:23

DP has a low sex drive I think for a man (and compared to me) so i rarely try it on as he usually has issues if he knows he has to "perform" so we rarely do it at the moment, if he wants it he usually just spoons me so i can feel his thingy against me :P

Fallenangle Thu 21-Mar-13 12:20:25

He is always up for it, so no need for any communication there. If I am really in the mood I'll wear a skirt or dress in the evening, he then knows he is on to a dead cert. We have three DDs, so his finding out whether or not out I am wearing stockings underneath, without them noticing, is a challenge he enthusiastically accepts.

Sometimes I'll say 'Fancy an early night?' Occasionally he takes the hint. But the only thing guaranteed to work is slipping on something less comfortable. That said, I don't do it all the time as he has a lower sex drive than I do so don't want to feel like I'm putting pressure on him. Would be nice if he initiated it more.

sjupes Thu 21-Mar-13 14:24:26

Dp - wanna suck my cock? <said repeatedly every day till i give in>

Dp - you shaved that thing?

Dp - i'm gonna burst you tonight blush

Me- lie on couch in chemise with boobs and bits out till he can't help himself grin

Me - wanna have sex? Dp - anal? Me - get to fuck! dp - sake ok then if you really want to

Me - i'm tired wanna have a wee bit of shit sex then go to sleep? Dp - spose so...

God when did sex get so crude [wibk]

sjupes Thu 21-Mar-13 14:25:07

Wibk? Oooookaay... wink

OwnedByACockerSpaniel Thu 21-Mar-13 15:35:27

I normally drop him a text that says "sex?" even if he is sat next to me on the sofa hahaha

fuzzpig Thu 21-Mar-13 16:19:11

I love this thread.

ouryve Thu 21-Mar-13 16:24:36

He just knows. Probably because I kiss him back just a bit more at bedtime and don't slap his hands if they wander.

ZipItShrimpy Thu 21-Mar-13 16:49:16

If I am in bed and he is spooning me I might start backwards thrusting. Christ, I am beyond sexy. If he's interested he will be sticking his boner into my back. Rarhh!

If we are downstairs and are child free one of us might suggest some 'Luvvin'

Or more often than not we might just start with a kiss and then get all horny and go from there. I quite pleased to say that even after 16 years we still totally fancy each other! grin

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