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What would you say to the OW if you could?

(64 Posts)
duffybeatmetoit Fri 08-Feb-13 22:00:57

Obviously you wouldn't because you're being the bigger person/have moved on etc but you can tell the rest of us without being judged grin

I'd tell her: Well Stbxh clearly likes you because when he was having his last affair he carried on sleeping with me but he stopped sleeping with me when he met you"

Anyone else?

TheOwlService Mon 11-Feb-13 14:43:45

50 Shades
Why on earth would you want to own such pictures, and worse still talk about your 11 year old son's involvement such a way?

50shadesofvomit Mon 11-Feb-13 10:29:40

OW,

Do you know the sex toys that exh used with you were inside of me first? That means you have had me inside of your vagina and mouth.

Do you know that exh asked me for sex at least once a week? And that you are so close that he hasn't even told you about his secret sexual fetish?

You must be very understanding to allow exh to be active members on so many Internet dating sites.

Do you know I own lots of naked pics of you thanks to exh being an idiot? And do you know our 11 year old son intercepted a couple and forwarded them to school friends?

sashh Mon 11-Feb-13 04:15:56

OW

Do you know what he does when you are out. When you leave your child in his care? Are you really so stupid that you think your dc walked into a door?

I have no idea why you felt the need to put a brick through my front window, as we have never met it wasn't something I said, what did he say?

And BTW, if you didn't want to be named in the divorce you shouldn't be pregnant with his child.

Yes I did tell soontobeex that you had to have your cunt surgically narrowed because you had been such a slag it was excessively stretched, and you had to pay for the op. It was so ridiculous I didn't think he would believe me. I certainly didn't think he would ask you about it. Or check with the neighbours because 'everyone knows'

Should I expect another brick?

BoomBoomBoom Sun 10-Feb-13 22:15:48

Ow thank you.

If it wasn't for you I would most likely still getting abused physically, sexually, financially and emotionally. As he left me for you so you freed me. Enjoy him.

I also wouldn't have met my now wonderful DP and had my two girls.

financialwizard Sun 10-Feb-13 21:34:03

Ow I pity you.

SpringyReframed Sun 10-Feb-13 21:06:03

I did actually have a rant at OW (as it was before I found MN and therefore did not know better blush but it was actually a quite genius speech even though I say it myself.) It was like another much sharper and wittier person was speaking for me.

The best part was her face when I told her that she mustnt think she was special as 3 others had come before her (I named them) all in exactly the same circumstances, but to be fair they were all better looking but that he obviously had had to lower his sights now he was a fat, old, bad tempered bastard. I finished by saying he was a shit husband, a shit father and a shit human being and she was very welcome to him. It made me feel better anyway at the time and apparently he isnt allowed out of her sight so that will piss him off greatly now the novelty has no doubt started to wear off. wink

ImperialBlether Sun 10-Feb-13 21:03:36

I would say to her that I have email evidence of his other affair which was going on at the same time; this other woman worked with the OW.

I'd also tell her that in fact I kicked him out; he didn't leave for her.

Oh and that just before she moved in with him, he asked if we could make it work again.

Arrgh the hatred never dies!

ChateauCollapso Sun 10-Feb-13 20:46:58

I have an email address and mobile number for suspected OW. Would love to say fuck off and you don't really want him. It's just flattery and the dick has fallen for it. Won't lower myself though.

Abitwobblynow Sun 10-Feb-13 20:38:07

I forgive you. How can I blame you, for falling what I fell for?

But - he was MARRIED. Why didn't you think of the children? How could you hurt children, how could you put your selfish feelgood in front of them? In that you and I are eternally different.

But I can't even be angry about that now. Even for them, life sends you sh*t; it is how you deal with it that counts.

You got your pain, when you found out he liiiiiied. He lied about how bad his marriage was, he lied about how little I meant to him. Sorry for you (but how I wish I hadn't had you in my life). It has absolutely messed up our relationship. For ever.

ThingsThatGoBumpInTheNight Sun 10-Feb-13 17:09:20

Here are the phone numbers and names of all the others, here are the copies of all the chats and emailed pictures, here are copies of all the texts.

You thought you were the only one? Sorry to bust your bubble dear..

Monty27 Sun 10-Feb-13 02:11:07

And I feel entitled to say this bit too, because she was my closest and best friend, I adored her,

He used to tell me what a bitch you were, and he was never going to give you the child you so desired, and you were 50 when you gave in and left him, with no furniture, one set of crockery and cutlery, and raiding his bank account, including his business account.

Enjoy your life. Our dc's are gorgeous smile

Monty27 Sun 10-Feb-13 02:05:26

Hope you enjoyed the snoring wink. Not worth Russell & Bromley boots etc was it, his filthiness, his boringness, and his general pain in the arseishness.

And thanks for getting him away from me.

How's the gutter now you've split up? O and by the way, when he told you he was away with his dc's, he was shagging someone else, who had two girls of her own, he used to come back here to drop mine off with the ow and her dc's in his car.

Oh how I laughed at you.

shadesofwhite Sun 10-Feb-13 01:24:10

OW, thanks for taking out the thorn in my flesh

AlwaysDreaming Sun 10-Feb-13 00:18:39

Dear OW , ( or sleazy one night pissed fling )

When i first met you i honestly thought you were a man .

BesameBesame Sat 09-Feb-13 21:11:19

My DS says you are pug ugly OW.

Domjolly Sat 09-Feb-13 20:52:40

Good luck wink

Domjolly Sat 09-Feb-13 20:51:18

Good luck wink

newyearletsgoforit Sat 09-Feb-13 19:40:50

I'm so sorry I almost ran you over, it's just that you jumped out in front of my car whilst I was driving away from DH's love nest with you. You were hiding in the shadows because after 3 months he dumped you and was trying to get back with me.

I'm so grateful to you; he was trying to get back with me when you asked me to pull over in the car and tell me that you were having an affair for quite some time and I'd been lied to and that you were now pregnant.

It's just that I didn't know what to do, but then I did.

So thanks for the laughs, I laughed the most when you got back together and he ran off with your next door neighbour and friend.

Big hugs n stuff xxxx

Estherbelle Sat 09-Feb-13 11:56:58

Dear X: Imagine you met the love of your life, moved in together, hoped to share the rest of your life with that person. How would you feel if, two years down the line, some girl whom he had a meaningless dalliance with aeons ago, the type of girl who sends pictures of her scrawny arse to men via the internet - was STILL texting him wanting to meet up??! Then, when he politely explains it's for the best that contact is severed, she has the gall and disrespect to try and label you as "controlling"?! I'm sorry if you are so lonely that you feel the need to pester my partner when there are 3 billion other men in the world. Perhaps one day you will find your soul mate too. Maybe then you might understand that the meaning of boundaries.

ItWentThatWay Sat 09-Feb-13 11:55:25

You must be very brave/stupid taking on a proven liar/cheater/abuser. Is it getting hard to live with yet? Is that why you have gained so much weight and look like a hag? Are you scared about reaching 30 next year as that's the age he thinks women are past it?

I know you ripped my DC's hearts out but thank you anyway for the great life we have now. I now have the most wonderful non-abusive/non-lying/non-cheating (non-selfish in bed) partner and all you have is a miserable face and the occasional black eye, congratulations!

ledkr Sat 09-Feb-13 11:20:14

Thanks and good luck.
Now you have your own babies can you imagine how we felt?
No I don't talk to you six years later as I have nothing to say sorry.
Next time he head butts you and breaks your nose you can still come to me. Me and my wonderful children will take you on and look after the babies whilst you go to hospital.
We will because we are nice.
You and ex hurt those nice people.

Allalonenow Sat 09-Feb-13 11:13:47

Hi bogeyface
It was a toast to your brio and chutzpah, have another wine !!

Onlyforthisone Sat 09-Feb-13 11:07:29

I just feel sorry for her now - and ever so slightly distainful but I wrote this at the time just to 'get it out'. It's a song - not a poem - and it has a bouncy rap tune:

It's easy to say,
It's easily said
That it's ok
To have my man in your bed.

He said he wants to have fun
Said he wants to be free
Said his marriage was over
But he didn't tell me!

You made me no vows
They weren't yours to break
But you knew he was married
So why, for fuck's sake

Did you happily shag him?
Can you not see
Good people don't help
Create such misery?

Did you think of his kids
And how much they would hurt
While you were getting your kicks
With a smile and a flirt?

You flattered his ego
And fell for his lies
Believing you're special
So why the surprrise

When you find tht he blanks you
'Cause he's run back to me?
You were just wet and warm
Conveniently.

You were oh-so selfish
Now you've got the blues
Excuse me for laughing
You're just shit on my shoes!

You behaved like a slut
Hurting tthose you don't know
You choose your own actions
So you reap what you sow.

Now he's out on his ear
Scorned by all those he knew
Ashamed of himself
And sickened by you.

Lovingfreedom Sat 09-Feb-13 09:31:23

Sorry....would have warned you but....

CogitoErgoSometimes Sat 09-Feb-13 09:27:23

It's a long, long time ago since my exH rushed back into the arms of his first love <eye-roll> but I would say.....

"How are you, you poor old thing? You must be quite knackered living with Mr Miserable Git. Does he still get stuck into a bottle of scotch every night and give you that wobbly-headed, glassy-eyed look as he breaths alcohol fumes in your face and paws you for sex? Ah.... Bless... And how are you getting on with those 'poor me' rants of his where the whole world is against him? Still listening or did you start self-medicating years ago? Must say, you being a vegetarian was rather a nice touch. He was always on the 'streak of piss' side build-wise so probably looks like a cheese string these days. Hope the kids look up to him because god knows, everyone else he met thought he was a joke. Enjoy...." wink

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