Trouble in my family is brewing again, and I am being called upon to help and advise my siblings and their partners about dealing with our npd mother.
I have had very low contact with my npd mother for many, many years now, can't remember if it is 12, or 13 years, but a good long time. I have posted on here before about this, spent much time on the Stately Homes thread, and am quite happy most of the time with the boundaries between me and my m.
But my siblings are still suffering and want my help. One has written to our mother to tell her what is wrong and how he would like to change things, and has asked for my comments on what he has written to her. I have explained as much as I can, about dis-engaging, FOG, etc. and the fact that it is pointless to explain things as she won't see it in the same way. But, he doesn't want to cut her off. He wants things to change.
I feel sad that he is going to be very upset when she responds in a hideous way to what he has written, as she invariably will. I feel sad that I can't think of a way of him changing things without getting done over by her. He is and tries to be a loving son and is bewildered by how nasty she can be. He puts so much effort in, to no avail.
I just want to know, from anyone who has good knowledge on this subject if there has ever been a narcissist who knows they are one, and whether if so, there is anything such a person can do to get help to be less of one IYSWIM?
Or does the very nature of narcissism mean that there is no way such a person could be made to recognise the disorder in themselves?
Any help would be much appreciated.
Thanks.
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Has anyone, ever, managed to explain to a narcissist what a narcissist is ...and to accept that they are one?
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