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What would you say is an alcoholic?

(28 Posts)
BrittaPerry Wed 30-Jan-13 22:48:19

Claiming to have been to AA meetings (probably only one, definitely less than you said) when alcoholism was a convenient excuse, but then later saying you realised you weren't actually an alcoholic? That can't count, surely.

Generally drinking too much could just be a general symptom of being an arse.

Money going that should have been for bills could again be twattishness or forgetfulness.

Random descriptions of weirdly specific violence against public figures is again the kind of thing a sober twat could do...

Just doing a kind of straightening things out in my head thing.

Grumpla Thu 31-Jan-13 08:48:44

He's either an abusive alcoholic, or an abusive arsehole who uses alcoholic-type-behaviour to justify being an arsehole.

Why would you want to live with either?

Throw him out. Then get some counselling for yourself to rebuild your boundaries and self-esteem so you don't pick another dickhead next time.

It doesn't matter if this man is an alcoholic or not. Wasting time worrying about definitions is avoiding the issue, which is that he is an arsehole and you need to get rid of him. Have you had previous arsehole partners, or was it a family member who taught you the bullshit that love conquers all and that women need to adapt their own behaviour in order to placate and control their men, without one of which they are worthless?

BrittaPerry Thu 31-Jan-13 16:02:40

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

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