Just been watching a film about two guys dating the same girl. All very silly, comedy stuff but it made me realise I really miss those early days. The first time you hold hands, the excitement, the unknown, no serious shit grinding you down, just having fun and enjoying other people's company.
I've been in a relationship about 6 months and I just feel that it's plagued with problems and insecurites. I think the problem is that we moved it on very quickly and we've arrived at a limbo stage where we can't go back to the easy carefree days but we can't move it on any further either as the next step would be marriage/living together which really is too quick. We don't do anything anymore, we never go out, we don't talk much as it always descends into crossed wires, one of us wanting to move things on, one of us wanting to slow things down, each denying what we earlier said - it's just all such a mess. I think he enjoys my company as I do his but love? we say it, I mean it when I say it but when I really think about it I'm not sure it's true. I don't know if he means it when he says it or if he just says it because he knows I enjoy hearing it. One of my friends said to me the other day "when can we expect to hear wedding bells from you two?" and I burst out laughing because I know full well he'd never propose to me. How sad is that? We just seem to sit in front of the TV all the time. I found myself thinking earlier that if we did split, I'd look forward to the carefree dating that seems to be the norm these days - date a few guys at a time, have a laugh, have fun! But I shouldn't even be thinking like this should I??
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I miss the whole "dating" thing - does this mean my relationship is crap?
LacryMe · 19/01/2013 20:11
I found myself thinking earlier that if we did split, I'd look forward to the carefree dating that seems to be the norm these days - date a few guys at a time, have a laugh, have fun! But I shouldn't even be thinking like this should I??
Has some law been passed to restrict the number of topics citizens are allowed to think about? 
Given that you'll expire of boredom if you stick with Mr Gogglebox there's a lot of fun to be had from dating lots of guys until you find one that you are truly compatible with, you shouldn't just be thinking it - you should be out there doing it 
What's stopping you?
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