Dear all
I discovered my husband had an affair a couple of months ago - he said this was a mistake - however, he justified this as we do not live together we live in different cities due to us both having children. We have been married for nearly 4 years and together for 11.
We are due to live together in a years time when my son has completed his a levels and going to university - we currently rent out our house in Cornwall that we are due to be moving into.
He said that he loves me - but is so unhappy with this relationship due to the distance (he has a daughter who is 11 and sees her once a week and everyother weekend they both live in London).
Two weeks ago he was on the phone for an hour and a half I had just left that Sunday evening to travel back (I have a job etc) I asked him about this he said that there must be something wrong with the phone. I also am unsure if he is still sleeping with her due to his behaviour - he has stopped texting me and does not email me anymore.
I have said that I respect the fact that he is unhappy and that he has to respect my feelings too and I have said that if he is so unhappy why do we not just end this marriage.
He has said that he does not want this marriage to end and that he is working through this.
I am feeling unsure all the time about this and I am behaving needy and neurotic - looking at his mobile etc.
He says that he loves me.
I think he maybe establishing the relationship with her to be strong enough to divorce me
I would really appreciate some tlc and support from some lovely mums
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charlotte300 · 19/01/2013 16:14
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