Sex is difficult....

[Tippitoes]

Can't believe I'm admitting this, never have done so to anyone else! Never had an orgasm......arghh - feel real failure...

Brought up in quite a restrictive way (think it was because aunt fell pregnant before marriage at 18 etc and all trying to protect me etc etc) - also quite a church-y background (mum's side). Anyway, never been very confident as a result, always found it quite painful (recently nurse at smear test said I was quite small down there though so maybe its not just frigidity on my part!)

And after having dd (traumatic try at inducement 3 weeks early due to pre-eclampsia etc - emergency c-section, blood transfusion etc) - just not wanted to get into it at all!! Now bit further on and really feel we are missing out and feel bad for dh too. I avoid going to bed at same time as dh etc etc and don't even like kissing in case he takes it the wrong way.

I wondered if I should try a vibrator on my own or something so that maybe I can get a bit more keen on the whole thing? Can anyone recommmend one if so?

[NomDePlume]

I would say that experimenting on your own is a good way to figure out what works for you. If you do want to buy a vibrator and you are small "down there", then start with a smaller, slimmer model. Buy lubricating gel too (you can buy all online from ann summers etc if want to avoid the blush factor).

[me23]

yes agree with ndp, also oral sex is very good at making women orgasm, start off with foreplay and dont have sex the first few times bulid it up and take your time then you'll be wanting full sex the better the foreplay gets.

[alexsmum]

i agree with spending some time alone
also would reccomend getting yourself one of the nancy friday books.very saucy and good for getting things moving iyswim!