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Well purse my fanjo, giraffes in wheelchairs and submariners going dowwwnnnn - the dating thread hits 30!

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Off we go...

Snapespeare Tue 04-Dec-12 14:09:51

yoga was chatting to him on fb on monday night, instigated by me - nothing yesterday, so I guess no news as such. shame as he seems to be quite nice.

KirstyWirsty Tue 04-Dec-12 14:15:04

Right so instead of chav central .. Where should I sign up? Don't want to pay

domesticgodless Tue 04-Dec-12 14:22:37

Hmm 48. I think you may perhaps have been a bit harsh.. but I'm wavering. If it's NSA, he doesn't really have the right to start banishing other suitors... still means he really likes you.. could you see it going further?

Re. falling in love quickly. Hmm. I've done it, I won't deny it blush and all bunnies are safe from me. But it is supposed to be an Official Red Flag! Eg if someone immediately latches onto you and smothers you with passion, starts talking about the future after you've met 3 times and only had sex 5 times for one night together.

I think you need to be on guard Bant. Address the condom thing with her. After all if that's her usual MO with guys you need to be very afraid :S

domesticgodless Tue 04-Dec-12 14:23:18

lulu I entirely understand feeling the ex relationship overshadowing anything you could have now. Baggage bloody sucks <heaves suitcase>

48howdidthathappen Tue 04-Dec-12 14:32:27

godless I do think I have been maybe too harsh. Sent him a text asking if he wants to kiss and make up. If not will have to suck it up.
As for it going any further difficult to see the wood for the trees when you have put up your guard up.

Yogagirl17 Tue 04-Dec-12 15:45:46

On a total side note - anyone notice the updates to the iPhone app?
smilegrinshockhmmconfusedenvywinebrew

48howdidthathappen Tue 04-Dec-12 15:50:10

Mr Fuck has texted back. We are back on. Coffee mmmm grin

MirandaWest Tue 04-Dec-12 15:58:13

The emoticons come up normal if you're not using the iPhone app. Tried updating it and using on my iPad but it keeps crashing sad

MirandaWest Tue 04-Dec-12 15:59:29

Yay for coffee 48 grin. Neither Mr Nice nor I like coffee but we both like Coffee wink

ike1 Tue 04-Dec-12 16:36:37

He obvs really likes you 48-c'mon Yoga indulge us with some turkey/flap talk...

48howdidthathappen Tue 04-Dec-12 16:41:40

ike if Mr Fuck was on here he would indulge. He is absolutely filthy grin

48 good smile

Yoga I had the most ghastly time on eharmony. They select, you have absolutely no say in it. You can't browse and choose. I don't know what their matching criteria are but its very American in style and pays a lot of attention to religion and ethnicity, for example. I had dates with two men on there. One had a nasty edge to him in terms of attitudes to women, ex wife, assumptions. There is no way you can judge that on there as the profiles are short. The second was lovely but thick had led a very sheltered life. He could write well in his messages so I thought he might be ok. Looking back someone esle may have been writing them. There were only about 10 men in total with my original criteria and then they started matching me with randoms to keep the 'we promise to find you matches' thing. This was in London with plenty to choose from so goodness knows what its like elsewhere.

Bantam do you know what her relationship history is? Assuming you had a pack of 12, you should be ok for tonight grin

ike1 Tue 04-Dec-12 16:43:18

I like a bit of filth talk-but on my own terms lol...

ike1 Tue 04-Dec-12 16:45:35

I dunno Bant ...might be a bit touch and go pop into Asda on the way over - better to be safe than sorry...and dont forget to put a knot in the end of em ..we dont want the little critters escaping now...

bantamrooster Tue 04-Dec-12 16:50:35

if I put a knot in the end of it, doesn't that mean it's a little difficult to put on?

ike1 Tue 04-Dec-12 16:52:26

ok Bant ...you've got me on that one...

I am the Queen of attracting the entitled. Just got this as a third message from a man who clearly hasn't got the idea yet.

I see you posted a new picture. Good idea. "Curvy" can be quite a euphemism, but not in your case. Sorry, but I'm easily influenced by the physical....

I don't wholly believe what you say about...... I imagine you have other reasons.....

That went well grin

48howdidthathappen Tue 04-Dec-12 17:30:11

juliette muppet grin

I had the horse whisper/red indian that someone posted a link to earlier.

That conversation was 'out there'

New thread coming up, have we had the conversation about possible titles?

Agree we should include 'residual parental responsibilites', any other suggestions? grin

Yogagirl17 Tue 04-Dec-12 17:49:31

mercury "they all arise from a common urge, ie to make some kind of sexual connection..doncha think"

No, not really. My main goal in all this is not to make a sexual connection but an emotional one. I want a best friend, someone I can lean on when it all goes tits up (like today when I seriously doubt whether I'm going to let DD live to see her 12th birthday --the horrid little hormonal shit--), someone to stroke my hair and tell me its going to be ok and someone to make me laugh and make me think about stuff. And yes, of course the physical side of things has to be there too, I have to fancy them - but the intimate stuff, the kissing and stroking - is way more important than the actual "deed"...that's just the icing on the cake.

Yogagirl17 Tue 04-Dec-12 17:50:38

Juliette thanks for the heads up on eharmony - I didnt' realise you have no say in your matches. I'll give it a miss then and stay on the sofa if I don't end up in prison first

lulubellaboozle Tue 04-Dec-12 18:46:11

yoga I let my DD see 12, 13 is still under negotiation, DS is a hormonal teenage boy. It's a veritable powder keg in our house!

juliette thread title ideas, lots and lots of coffee and men with fish or fishy men?

On a positive note, I phoned the Domestic Abuse helpline today as they were so helpful to me earlier in the year and they were brilliant. Totally got where I was coming from regarding mediation and the effect on me. I am going to start some counselling sessions with them.

ike, Mercury made me laugh this afternoon. Cuddly, kissy texts from Mr Ex Army this afternoon helped too.

I did the last one so feel free anyone... smile

Yogagirl17 Tue 04-Dec-12 19:50:42

Argh, can't start a new one til this one....

Yogagirl17 Tue 04-Dec-12 19:50:56

Reaches 1000!

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