So this might be long...
My closest friend has decided he no longer wants to be friends with me. We had a minor falling out in June and I haven't seen him since. Prior to this I regarded him as family, we have been 'best friends' for 7 years and have supported each other through some very difficult times, saw each other an awful lot, had a group of mutual friends etc.
The reasons behind him no longer wanting to be friends with me are complex and I believe lie in his fears around people being close to him due to a history of sexual abuse. Unfortunately he won't talk to me about the reasons and just says that the friendship wasn't working for him and that he doesn't want me to analyse it. Actually the only contact we have has is via email.
People around me are understandably shocked and angry and to some degree it also impacts upon other people as we were part of a small but close group of friends and haven't socialised together since. He has to some degree distanced himself from those people too but not to the same extent.
I just feel so so sad and I am also worried about him, I worry about what is going on in his head that has made him feel that this is the right thing to do. I am really struggling to move on from this and I just wondered if anyone has had a similar experience?
I know I need to grieve I guess and try and accept life without him but its hard and I really don't want to. People around me are supportive but I feel like I need to stop talking about it now and move on.
Any thoughts would he gratefully received.
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awaywego1 · 13/11/2012 16:17
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