My husband has been exchanging sex texts and phone calls with someone he met a few months ago and I found him out yesterday. We spent the whole day shouting and talking and he says it was a mistake, he is sorry, it meant nothing blah blah blah. He says he never intended it to be anything other than what it was but I keep wondering if I hadn't found out where would it have gone? She lives 250 miles away so I think I beleive that he hasn't had a physical relationship. But I keep replaying the texts over and over in my head and questioning everythign he has done or said in recent months.
I suspected something a while ago and he made me feel so awful for not trusting him.
In many ways this is just a symptom of how crappy our marriage has been for a long time. Netiher of us have made any real effort to make it better; but now this. He says he loves me and wants to try to get through it. I don't know what I feel other than hurt and total confusion. He has agreed to go to Relate counselling which I think perhaps we should have done years ago really.
How do I forgive him? How do I move on? How do I switch off these thooughts?
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I am so hurt and confused
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slightlymanic · 11/10/2012 09:59
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