My boyfriend recently met my children and has been coming down to my house and we're all getting on great.
It's becoming apparent however that he doesn't want to show the same commitment to me. He has kids, two that he see's every saturday night yet he hasn't once suggested I meet them. All he has said is that on Christmas day, he might have to spend the morning with me and then the afternoon with his kids and then added "anyway who knows, might be that you could meet them sometime". I kind of take it that he feels his kids feelings are more important than mine, that his kids need protecting from it for some reason - maybe incase we don't last but then shouldn't the same consideration have been shown for my kids?
He's so bloody touchy about everything like this. Tells his family/friends little bits about me but not too much incase it doesn't work out - yet he's all up for coming out with me and my friends at the weekend.
Facebook - he doesn't want me to tag him in anything - presumably because he doesn't want all his friends/family finding out too much about me but why all the secrecy? We recently changed our relationship status' to 'in a relationship' and whilst mine just posted itself on my wall (no idea how to stop this) he went out of his way to make sure it didn't post on his wall or leave a big timeline announcement. Why all the hush hush sneaking around shit?
Yet he's telling me he'd love us to move in together. Shouldn't his first priority be introducing me to his family and friends??
If we see his friend's out and about he does stop and introduce me so I know he isn't hiding anything but it seems like he doesn't want me mixing with his nearest and dearest - even though I've let him into that part of my life :(
Am I being too sensitive? And is it fair enough if I tell him to forget about living together until he's willing to let me meet his family?
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It's like he wants ME to commit, but HE doesn't want to commit to ME
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TambianLoco · 03/10/2012 15:54
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