DP lost his father to cancer last year. Since, DP has convinced himself that he too will die of cancer. I totally understand this as the paranoia hit me when my own father died. So, he's been backwards and forwards to the doctors for blood tests, scans etc and they're trying to reassure him that he's fine.
DP however still not convinced so the doctor has decided to send him for a lumber puncture. I'm a nurse and I know how horrific these procedures are. I HATE the thought of him going through that if it's not needed.
So what do I do?? convince him not to have it done and risk them missing something that actually IS a problem or simply support him through the procedure? He said to me "I won't feel it, they told me" and I had flashbacks to trying to calm down a 6ft 3in rugby player who was crying in agony whilst having his done . I feel like I'm lying to him by agreeing that he'll be fine but I can't exactly sit there and tell him how awful it is can I!?
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Torn between my professional self and my personal feelings regarding DP's health
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MuckyRedSheet · 24/09/2012 09:04
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