Anyone keen on a good chat about serial cheaters?

[complexo]

?If you marry a man who cheats on his wife, you'll be married to a man who cheats on his wife.? Ann Landers

Vice versa also welcome.

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

I don't actually think you can generalise. Yes, some are irresponsible, self-obsessed types that think shagging around is the way to stay young, never learn and leave a string of broken hearts in their wake. Other cheaters make early mistakes but go on to have long, happy & devoted relationships with their new partners. An astonishingly big number seem to find wives happy to let them keep cheating as long as they apologise sincerely and promise never to do it again. Quite a few live a merry double life and are never found out.

[Charbon]

It depends.

Serial cheats tend to be people who don't think infidelity is wrong and is an acceptable action if the circumstances are right and it's not them personally getting hurt. That also applies to those people who repeatedly get involved in relationships with someone who is attached. The common denominator is that it keeps happening, either in the existing relationship or in subsequent ones. That just points to someone who is perenially selfish.

That's very different from people who behaved very badly once and either deeply regretted the infidelity or at least the fact that their actions led to other people being hurt unnecessarily, even if they cannot regret the new relationship itself.

Good kind people are capable of making terrible errors of judgement once and it doesn't define who they are as human beings, as long as they learn from the experience.

New partners generally only need to worry if there are no regrets of any kind - and if infidelity is still being excused as a necessary evil for people to get what they want in life - because one day that new partner might be viewed as a similar encumberance to what a selfish person believes is their 'right' to happiness.

[complexo]

Well, I cheated on a boyfriend once many moons ago and see the destruction it caused to boyfriend, lover and myself, I would never ever dare doing it again, no matter how unhappy I am in a relationship.

Serial cheaters can't see the damage they cause or they subestimate the pain one can feel by their actions.