Would you try to influence the man you aer in love with, behave out of your comfort zone e.g. spell it out to them how you feel, try to do a lot for them, try subtle strategies..or do you just accept that it's not there for them if they don't seem to be in love, and then you have to very painfully let your feelings die? These feelings of love are rare, you know when you love someone and can easily imagine spending your life with the person, when you become a better version of yourself (genuinely) because of them etc, etc. It is excrutiating to just kill the feelings, but if you have to, how do you do it? should you wait/fight for someone for a long time or is it just not real life ? This is assuming of course that a man liked you or had some fondness but wasn't showing any other level of interest, and of course you are both single/divorced. Did you bare your soul or kept it to yourself, and what worked? Or possibly if someone had experience from the other end, and moved from lukewarm feelings to love due to the efforts of their other half? sorry for a dozen of questions, just wondering how funny life can be!
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what do you do when you fall in love but get nowhere fast?
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pinkredandpurple · 29/06/2012 00:46
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