I have namechanged, and would appreciate any advice. Not sure if this even belongs in relationships...
I left home age 16 (17 years ago) to live with a man who subjected me to two years of abuse. In the end he was arrested for an unrelated incident and subsequently detained in a secure mental health unit. I haven't seen him since.
Last night I was walking down my street and I saw him. I hid, and I don't think he saw me. He knows my hometown and lived here for a short while before we met, so it's conceivable that he might return. I just though he never would. Actually, I hoped he was dead. This man has been the monster in my nightmares for 17 years.
There is some social housing near my house and I am petrified that he has been given a flat there. Do I have any right to find out if he is living near me? The police did attend a couple of domestic incidents but nothing ever progressed, so I'm not sure there would be any record linking us. Of course it might be that he was just visiting, but I don't want to become a prisoner in my home wondering if he's out there and I really don't want to regress, I've come so far in so many ways. Can anyone offer any advice? I don't want to speak with anyone in real life about this, my husband would worry and most friends have no idea whatsoever of my history.
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Think abusive ex might have moved near me
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woody101 · 22/03/2012 11:57
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