Trying to get dd to sleep thru the night again, she's having some kind of separation anxiety at the mo and awake alot at night.
Last night she woke at 4:30 crying so I went in, did an hour of pick up / put down with no effect and eventually just sat by the bed shushing gently which seemed to be working.
DH got up a few times in the hour to complain he had to work the next day and question my methods of sleep training ("why don't you just bring her in to bed?" "Because that's what she bloody well wants! That's what got us in this state in the first place!") which is normal these days, god forbid he should help me at all, and the last time he came in he creaked a floor board when dd was just dropping off which woke her.
I gave out to him for being an insensative bollocks and he stormed out slamming doors and as noisily as possible he went downstairs to sleep on the sofa.
DD eventually fell asleep at 5:50 and woke again crying at 6:15, I gave up trying to get her back to sleep after another half hour and went down to get breakfast for her.
DH was snoring on the sofa so I kept as quiet as possible and fed dd and went back upstairs to play with her. She fell asleep at about 8am and I put her down in her cot and tried to get a bit of sleep myself. At 8:30 dh's alarm went off so I went down to wake him up, all he could do was curse and swear about how tired he was and soon dd was awake again so I brought her into our room and made a nest of pillows on the bed for her to play with some toys in while I rested my head.
DH came in and said "Isn't that teaching her all the wrong things? What was all that sh*t about last night if you're just going to have her in bed with you now?" And proceeded to moan about the tiredness, didn't even ask how I had faired for sleep and then left for work without saying goodbye.
Feel like I am doing this alone. It's so hard at the moment, I'm really tired and getting no real support from dh. I know he has alot of work on at the moment and he works so hard and I know it's even harder on broken sleep but he gives me no credit for how hard it is for me.
All I wanted this morning was for him to cuddle me and say "We'll get through this." or something, as it is I feel I have to protect him from dd and until now I have by cuddling her to sleep or co-sleeping with her in the spare room but I need my whole night back. I am exhausted.
I was so tired last night while making up the bottles I forgot to put the top on one and shook it without any lid on, the milk went everywhere! Need support or I'm gonna go under.
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Tired and emotional - just need to get it out, nothing serious!
Lilyofthevalley · 01/02/2006 10:16
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