I am really worried about dh I think he is really ill but he won't go to the doctors what the f can I do?

[Heyyyho]

Dh is upstairs wheezing, weak and pale. He is so bloody stubborn about going to the doctors, it's like a phobia or something. He just got in from work and went upstairs saying he was sleeping it off but he is coughing and wheezing i can hear him from here in tje kitchen.
He has had this thing since Xmas. He needs medicine and I think urgently what can I do I am quite worried and panicing

[tunise]

Wheezing that loudly cannot be a good sign. I think I'd consider telling him unless he agrees to go to see an out of hours Gp/A&E that I will phone for an ambulance for him and actually do so? Hope all goes well.

[edam]

Blimey, it does sound as if he needs medical help - could be quite serious and definitely needs treatment. I like tunise's plan.

Would he go to a pharmacist? Maybe if you can get him to your local pharmacy, they might be able to persuade him.

[Bogeyface]

You can hear him from downstairs and he has had this since Xmas?

He need urgent medical help. dont ask him, call OOH ask for a home visit and then tell him.

[CardgamesFTW]

Agree with Bogeyface. Sounds serious :(

[izzyizin]

Call your GP's surgery and get a home visit tonight - with out of hours calls you may have to wait for the doctor on call to ring you back and, when they do, you might have to lay it on with a trowel to get them to turn out.

He may simply have a low grade infection that will respond to anitibiotics but this has gone on for far too long and he does need to be seen by a medic.

[Heyyyho]

Thank you I am going to call ooh and just do it, he will be livid.

I know I sound like a cow but he has been smoking through this infection I could bloody shake him :(

[fumblebee]

i agree with the others, its the best, he'll be mad at you for a bit but its in his best interests xx

[ike1]

Poss pneumonia -get the bugger sorted x

[Valpollicella]

If he's that weak he won't have the energy to be that pissed off - call OOH and see what they say.

And if he is pissed off then let him be pissed off - he'll be a hell of a lot more annoyed if he ends up hospitalised

Hope he's better soon OP

[giraffesCantDonateBoneMarrow]

he needs his o2 levels checked and chest listened too, maybe xray too.

and antib/steroids/ventolin

[MavisGrind]

My mother is another doctor refuser - today my dad finally got her to the docs and she has pneumonia .

Get the doctor in, really, when he's feeling better is he really going to complain?

[hermionestranger]

Listen to me. My friend almost died at the beginning of this year. Live on their own and was very poorly, struggled out to the shops for more painkillers and collapsed whilst there. They ha double pneumonia and was in a coma and bloody nearly didn't make it.

Please get your DH the treatment he needs.

[Queenofcake]

Sounds awful - Pneumonia crossed my mind as well from what you describe but hopefully its not.

I would try calling the OOH Dr and asking for a home visit. I really do hope you get one but if your OOH cover is anything like ours - its unlikely they will come. You would stand a higher chance of getting your GP to come out and do a home visit on a normal surgery day but thats no use on a Friday night.

Its worth a try with the OOH. Good luck and let us know how you get on OP.

[Wheresmycaffeinedrip]

Agree with the other posters . I would try and get someone to give a home visit and hope that he sees that you did it cos you love him and care about him, he probably needs antibiotics/ steroids or whatever. Hope u can get someone out and please let us know how it goes. Thinking of you :)

[oikopolis]

DH's friend had pneumonia which he didn't seek treatment for (addiction issues, also heavy smoking, basically just not taking care of himself at all).

It crossed over into his blood. He ended up with septicaemia (basically all the blood in his body became infected with the same bug that was in his lungs) and was in IC, nearly died, in a coma etc. He lost a terrific amount of weight and it took him months if not a year or two to recover. he's still not completely healthy.

If there's a change of pneumonia (and frankly, wheezing is a sign of at least a bronchial infection if not full blown pneumonia), he NEEDS treatment.

[Heyyyho]

Thank you all do much ooh calling me back will update :(

[ike1]

You are def DOING THE RIGHT THING and I am sure because of you will take the right meds and be ok x

[Queenofcake]

Fingers crossed for you.

Hope you are not waiting too long for a call.

[Popoozle]

Good luck with the OOH service OP. It does sound like he needs to see someone - even if it is "just" a chest infection it sounds like a very bad one & the fact he has had it for 2 months can't be helping. It may be he just needs some antibiotics or it may be he needs a short hospital stay - whichever way I'm sure he'll get over his initial displeasure at you calling OOH as soon as he starts to feel better .

[piprabbit]

Does he have a temp as well?
Hope the OOH is helpful.

[FannyFifer]

You are doing the right thing.

[oikopolis]

well done OP you've done right by him. let him be angry about it, he'll get over it eventually.

[JarethTheGoblinKing]

Oh, how worrying :(
Really hope you manage to get him seen tonight. Another one who thinks pneumonia is possible

[Queenofcake]

Has the Dr called back yet?

[Teajunky]

Just read this and didn't want to read and run.

I don't want to scare you OP, but it hit a very raw nerve for me, as my Dad passed away with pnuemonia last year [ sad].

Please do let us know how he is getting on.

He will be in my thoughts all night now x