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Dp been on computer annd i nosed through history as i do to se what he's been looking at, some jewellers pop up and he's navigated through the engagement rings to lockets, then finaly and i'm guessing this will be my gift, landed on the cheapest locket they sell....I know its the thought that counts and its not just my gifts he's tight with but I just wish on one occasion he would suprise me and splash out on something nice to show i mean something to him. am i being a cow? i know there are people on here with vile partners and he's not that, just so blinking tight!

My wife spent a pound on my birthday present. Makes me love her more, as she knows saving is very important to me.

I see what you mean, but for us it's a bit different in that we are skint so it will just be a card and token gift (i.e. chocolate rose, cupcake, type thing).I would go balistic if he pushed the boat out because the money could be put to better use and the token gift always make me smile.

He probably does not see the gift as reflecting how much he loves you, he's just going through the motions, like most blokes are on this day.

You never know the locket might be accompanied by a surprise trip to Paris !!

Ah thats sweet maybe I'll join dp in the saving stakes and we'll both save some pennies then!!

we don't exchange presents on Valentine's day at all, and DH spends very little on me for birthday/Christmas... just not his style (and we have a joint bank account so not like he's not sharing "his" money).

He cooks more often than I do as he works fewer hours and does his share of washing/ironing etc. Which to me is more important. married 24 years this year, so obviously that works for us.

But if expensive presents are what make you happy, and that's the only way you'll believe you mean something to your DP, then you need to sort that out with him.... but get your priorities right in your own mind first, perhaps???

Ha ha thanks mumofthe monsters i know your right it should be about the token gesture really that counts and its probably just a sign of my insecurity in the relationship and his feelings towards me in general. Thats probly it really and even if he did go all extravagant it wouldn't mean he loved me any more really would it..

A cuddle at the end of a day With the man I love and the father of my 4 Dcs is enough for me! Couldn't give a shit about cards or presents.

We're not interested in Valentine's day. It's a bit of fun for kids, surely?

DP go met a bottle of cherry lambrini one year! We joke about it now....

DP got me a bottle of cherry lambrini one year! We joke about it now....

My DH is away this week but left me a homemade card he made with my 16month old DS. That is enough for me. He shows me he loves me every day. February 14th is just another one of those days

Dh knows that random expensive presents would upset me so much more - not sure why any adult needs to be sucked in by the weird commercialism of Valentines day.
How much do you feel you have to spend on him? Does he want a gift of at least X pounds?

I think it's for kids too. It's never crossed my mind to do something for valentines day.

Dh got me a packet of liquorice allsorts last year & I made him a card. We have a joint account & live on a budget so I would be pissed off to receive an expensive present too!

DH and i don't do anything for valentine's day. It's not actually a holiday or an anniversary so why bother? Valentine's day is much like Easter to us - a bit of fun meant for kids, not adults.

with only $25 left in the account till pay day we will do nothing! Apart from maybe have an early night!!!!

Of course it's the thought that counts - which is why my thoughts will focus favourably on the swain that proffers a Harry Winston box containing an item from the New York collection (preferably a platinum 3 row Traffic or the delectable River ring)

<<slips into strapless pink slub satin floor length sheath and matching long gloves>>

<<sings 'Diamonds Are A Girl's Best Friend'>>

lilolil I could have written your post word for word, even down to 24 years married.

I sort of assume Valentines presents are for somebody whose love you are unsure about, or when you are newly together, or young.

Old like us who have been together for 24 years have had plenty of other opportunities to show they love each other.

Sorry that you're miffed, but to be fair, nosying through your partner's computer history is about as bad as him being tight with a gift.

My DH announced last week that he doesn't feel the need to buy me presents.

I pointed out that he was not taking into account my need to receive them.

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Sometimes DH gets me a card and some of my favourite chocolates and sometimes he doesn't. I don't bother. He doesn't bother with anniversaries either. He does really splash out for my birthday and Christmas though and I get loads of good stuff.
I'd rather have that than over priced flowers or jewelery I would never wear.

You rifle through your DP's history?! How controlling of you.

And then you're not happy with the thought he has put into getting you a present on a commercialised Valentines day, and complain that he could have chosen something more expensive! Why does it matter what it cost if he likes it and chose it for you?

I don't expect anything from DP on Valentine's Day. He shows me how much he loves me every single day, I don't need him to get sucked into Valentines nonsence in order to feel loved.

Sorry you are feeling so insecure about your relationship.

DH buys me nothing for Valentines Day; he says if he doesn't show me he loves and respects me the other 364 (or 3565 this year ) days then a present on that day would make little difference.

He makes me a cuppa when I am tired, helps at work when I am short staffed and brings me flowers (often the first daffodils of spring); I feel loved

oops 365 (leap year)

I hate valentines day! As others have said, showing you love someone on just one day out of the year is so stupid! it's the small thoughts and acts of kindness everyday which really mean something.