I've always liked order and tidiness and DH is quite the opposite. Before we had the children and we were both working it wasn't really an issue. Since I've become a SAHM, I guess because I'm at home a lot more, it's more important to me and also with two small boys there's just much more mess. Also, I have quite a few visitors during the week so that's another reason to have a tidy house whereas we have few visitors at weekends (and as a caveat to what I say below he will always tidy and hoover if we are expecting visitors whilst he's here)
I'm fine during the week when it's just me here but I've started to dread the weekends. DH takes very little responsibility for his own mess, let alone that of the children. When I ask him to put things away and do his share his answer is always that he's not bothered by the mess. He does empty the bins, wash up and does his own laundry and sometimes makes lunch but that's it. If he does make lunch, dirty knives, plates, empty wrappers etc decorate worktop and table.
I feel so frustrated. I either "nag" him (his take on me trying to discuss how I feel) about it and we have a row, I dig my heels in and don't tidy up then get spectacularly grumpy because everywhere's a mess, or give in and do it then feel martyred and resentful.
I have lost my ability to think rationally about this and would welcome your input.
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Trivial, I know but how do you reconcile your differences re tidiness?
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TheHouseofMirth · 11/02/2012 13:47
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