My husband makes me feel so anxious

[Jipjones]

I'm so confused and I'm not sure what the best thing is to do so I was hoping for some advice. My dh has been really stressed with work at the moment and is almost manic when he gets home, he asks questions ns then talks over the top of me when I try to respond and isn't interested in anything that is happening in my life. I was helping him do something on the computer and I really calmly true to point out that he wasn't even letting me answer before asking another question and he just flipped started pacing back and forth and shouting 'I'm really stressed why do you have to say anything i know alim talking fast just dont say anything' then he strted saying i was trying to wind him up then he stormed out. He gets angry so quickly at the smallest things and I feel he is picking on anything in order to be able tO shout at me. Then he makes out it's me and I am being a bitch. I am treading on eggshells all the time as he has a habit of punching walls when he is really wound up. most of yesterday he ignored me apart from the odd "stupid bitch" as he walked past.

I've tried to speak to him but he says other people actually listen and he can't speak to me. Apparently his best friend and his girlfriend are much better listeners and says I am the cause of it all. Whenever we try to talk it ends up with him saying what a bad wife I am and how I don't keep the house tidy enough or that I'm moody and if it wasnt for me he wouldn't be stressed at all.

I know this is all a bit jumbled, I'm not really thinking Clearly. Is it normal for someone to act this way when they are stressed? I don't really think its my fault but everything is blamed on me.

[wrigle]

Hi Jipjones, when people are stressed, angry, (not sleepig well perhaps?) they can behave in all sorts of ways, but that doesn't make it ok, and it's not your fault. Hopefully this is not common for your relationship, andhe should feel terribly guilty and apologise. If he doesn't then you need to think about how to protect yourself emotionally, and that might mean living seperately until he's able to sort out the difference bwtween what he's experiencing inside (i.e. his issues) and what he's doing to you. Try to keep a foothold on what you know to be true about yourself and remind yourself that his behaviour ishis responsibility.