Am I really that boring

[quitehappywithhubbythanks]

My DH spends most nights tapping away on his computer playing games etc. I've mentioned that 4 or 5 hours a night, every is excessive but he just says its what he enjoys. He only stops when its tea time then straight back on. Am I that boring?

[Haziedoll]

I think your dh is the boring one.

[quitehappywithhubbythanks]

I'll keep the clock running and see what time he gets off it tonight

[Woozlemum]

Defo he's the boring one if he cant tear himself away. My DH likes to play computer games but he goes through phases of playing something for ages but then has months of not touching his Xbox. When he has his phases of playing things non-stop I usually draw attention to it by kind of picking on him/taking the mick out the game he is playing, usually because I know after a while he'll go off it and return to planet earth again. But if he is constantly playing it - that is a problem. How old is your DH?

Perhaps come up with some other things to do in the evenings together? Find something else for him to enjoy that involves you too! Have a compromise of 1 hour gaming followed by an hour of doing something else? If there is a game you like - perhaps you could play along with him for a bit - share in what he likes and he might be more inclined to do something with you that you like?

DH and I sometimes play on the Wii together, silly games that make us laugh like Cow Racing. Beats watching tv all night or him sitting there shooting things for hours. Sometimes we listen to comedy stuff on the radio together. Just find some things that might coax him out from geekdom.

[forward]

I feel your pain.

Last week DH was away with work. The night he was due back I was invited to the pub with a group of old friends - hadn't seen them for ages, but declined on the basis that it didn't seem right to go out as soon as DH got back.

Anyway, I was putting DCs to bed when he got home. By the time that was done, DH was in front of TV with Call of Duty, didn't even grunt when I entered the room. I put my coat on and went to the pub and I'd recommend you do the same!

TBF DH isn't always like this and he had had a very long and stressful week, wanted some light relief etc......

[quitehappywithhubbythanks]

He is a good bloke but sometimes he just doesn't get it

[pennypencil]

no you're not boring

Is he on MN though is the thing? I have been known to come on here for ten mins and still be on 3 hours later

[quitehappywithhubbythanks]

Hi penny. True but I bet it's very rare you do that, not nearly every night

[pennypencil]

yes that's true- must be pretty hard to live with actually - have you told him how it's making you feel? perhaps he needs it spelling out?
can you start to maybe get out a bit and have some social life with friends?

[Twinklebum]

My partner is the same, he works long hours and I don't see him all week. When he is around at the weekend he has always got his head in the laptop or tapping away at his phone, I get ignored and so do our dc

[Woozlemum]

Unplug the offending electrical item and hide it until they agree to pay you some attention!

[quitehappywithhubbythanks]

sounds like a good idea