hi alll.. hoping you can provide some perspective... how do i know if my marriage is worth the fight???
Summary:
Togther 10 years
3 dc's - got pg after a year together. married when dc1 was 11 months old.
Disgnosed with dep and anx 2 months before weddinG... Still probs to this day.. Hubby has never read up on how to support me or himself through.this despite me literally begging him to.
Rejected me sexually for over a year about 5 yearz ago.. said i had let myself go(true)
- only just found out from him that actually he resented me for taking away his freedom!!!??!!?? Now expects me to be over it... How?
Work PT... Hubby always worked and still does... doesn't dring/gamble/take drugs and is a 'good egg' Is this it tho?? I used to think " it you love somebody set them free" so he does his hobby two evenings a week somwtimes more.. i blew up a bit as this has been goung on for several years.. i think he is prioritising his own interests over me and the kids...dont see him in my long-term future as i have really lost respe t for him...I have asked for he and i togo to counselling repeatedly but it's fallen on deaf ears.. He's not interested in the emotional committment.
Have fought long and hard to try and get better...think i am getting there..like to think i am compassionate but maybe i'm not.... DM told me yesterdai i have too high standards and that prob noone would make the grade in my eyes..
So bloody confused and disappointed.... how do i straighten this out? Can I? I know i have been v idealistic..and could be trying harder... i love my kids but it's made things harder for us..... pls can u offer any wisdom or fyidance. feel like i have got this all so wrong... x