Hi
Not sure if this is the right section to post this but will give it a go and see if I can get any advice.
My DP cannot swim, and refuses to learn. His idea of hell is a family holiday by the beach with a pool. I would love to take the kids abroad in a few yrs on what I call a sunshine holiday but my DP will not come with us. As a family we often went on these type of holidays when I was a child and loved it my dad couldnt swim but eventually he had lessons so he could come in the pool with us, he never relished these type of holidays but he did it for us!!
We have booked to go to Butlins in April with alot of reluctance from him but he finally agreed which is great of him but he will refuse to go in the pool. He never went on holiday as a child or had swimming lessons or was taken swimming. He had a lessons at school but never liked it. His sisters have both had lessons as adults and can swim now but neither of his parents have ever been in the sea or a swimming pool.
Our kids have lessons which he thinks is throwing money down the drain as he really cannot understand the obsession with water!!!
I like to take the kids swimming at weekends but have to do it one at a time as I can't take both kids in on my own as our pool has a 2 to 2 ratio.
Funnily enough we live by the coast and he loves walks along the beach but would never lie on the beach. Most of the summer I spend the warm weekends at the beach with the kids but minus him I just wish he would give it a go as we could have such fabulous times as a family.
We do lots as a family anyway walks along the beach, days out, etc but I would just love for him to do this 1 thing for me, just 1 lesson or at least getting in a pool to really see if it is that bad and if he really hated it then fair enough, I would understand if something bad had happened in the water but as he has probably only ever been in the water a handful of times.
Just wondered if there is anybody else who has a partner who can't or won't swim. Apart from this we have a great relationship but I jsut feel he could get so much more from family life if he would give it a try.
So in a nutshell if I want family holidays I have to take the kids alone or he will come but go off exploring rather than being bored stupid on the beach or round the pool!!!
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks x
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DP can't and won't learn to swim
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peppajay · 06/01/2012 11:28
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