I'll try and make this explanation quick- my Dmum is one of the most important people in my DD's life, she utterly loves her nanna and it is very obvious...Or so I thought. Because (aged 4) my DD is a bossy and fickle little madam half the time, my Dmum keeps asking me if DD 'likes' her still, and worrying that she will "go off her"
So, wtf?! I keep repeating to my Dmum that as the main adults in her life (along with DD's dad) it is utterly irrelevant if DD temporarily dislikes us, maybe for being strict/not letting her do exactly as she pleases etc. Because we must be consistent with her, we are here to shape and guide her, not be her effing friend!! (All the while being positive/kind to her obviously)
I just find it very upsetting to hear my mum saying it, she said to DD once "ah glad you're in a better mood today, I thought you had gone off me and didn't love me any more"
I cut her short and said don't be bloody daft and don't say things that are emotionally blackmailing to a 4-yo..
Anyone got any fresh approaches I could try? Don't want to upset my mum, as she had a crap childhood with extremely emotionally distant parents, and felt unwanted by them her whole life.
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My mum keeps asking me if my 4yo DD 'likes' her?!
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TwoPeasOnePod · 24/10/2011 21:32
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