i dont know wat to write or how to start this thread as it has been over a year but since april last year me and my mum havent really spoken and in a way have become strangers, we have tried to make amends but then some thing else happens and we fall out again.
first time we fell out was because i moved in with my partner, 6 months later we made up, then i got engaged, she fell out with me again because my partner hadnt asked her permission but my grandads, (only because he knows how much of a dad my grandad is to me) and the 3rd time was because id allowed my ex to have our daughter more often, which wasnt my choice but the courts decsicion
and now im just at the point were i really cant be bothered with her because of how she has been in the past and i wud rather focus on my family than on some one who holds bigger grudges than queen victoria, she still hates my ex after something he did 3 years ago, she still wont speak or apologise to my partner for the way she treated him in the early stages of our relationship.
but wat type of mother keeps secrets from her daughter, lies to her daughter, tries to break up her daughter and her parnter, batters her daughter infront of her grandaughter and for 6 months ignores her pregnant daughter to focus more on her son jus because hes in the army but then as soon as her son passes out and goes to london she then remember that she does have a daughter and 2 grandkids....it took her 3 weeks to come and see her grandson after he was born and now hes 3 months, i havent said she cant come and see him.
i just dont have the energy any more to want to be her daughter, i have been fighting all my life for her attention, her approval and for us to have a mother daughter relationship but now im 25 i wud rather build on mine and my daughters relationship just so that we dont end up like me and my mum.....its ok for her to say oh lets forget everything and be friends but for me after everything she has said and done over the last 2 years its not that easy.
am i being unreasonable??? shud i jus forgive and forget???
please help xx
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should i forgive and forget??
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rachyaimeelou · 15/10/2011 12:28
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