this seems petty but I could really do with some perspective.
yesterday i was planning to take DS to my mother's. I had told her what time I was leaving and DP and I had a discussion about what time he needed to bring DS back from an activity. I wanted to leave "no later than 2". DS needed to be back in time to have his lunch etc and we agreed- infact DP said- in that case he would bring ds straight home. In which case they would have been home by 1-1.15.
By 1.30 no sign of them and DP's phone switched off. I was worried and annoyed by turns.
They get back at 1.50. I said, "I thought we'd agreed I'd leave by 2". No apology he just said, "Oh I really don't know where the time went, we came straight back." (as if the universe had somehow speeded up time)
In fact they hadn't come straight back but had gone to the library.
This is the second time this has happened- last time I took DS to my mother's again DP brought him back late so I have to ring my mum and tell her we wiil be late, that time at least he acknowledged I had been waiting around and apologised.
Again recently we were two hours late to my sister's because DP was finishing work and didn't allow enough time.
I'm still fuming about this but- as he says I left at 2.15 rather than 2- no biggy- but I wouldn't do it and if I did I'd apologise. I think he is dozy and preoccupied rather than deliberately ignoring my arrangements but I'm losing patience.
Isn't it just common courtesy to think about other people's arrangements? I don't think he'd be quite so casual with other people.
I feel pissed off out of all proportion to the actual harm. I feel really angry every time I think about this.
Anyone else had anything similar? What petty things in your relationship drive you mad?
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really cross over something trivial....or is it?
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harrap · 21/08/2011 17:32
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