Hi Guys
I have been posting on here over the last couple of weeks. Basically 7 weeks ago my husband walked out on me and our son. There was no reason behind it he just says he doesnt love me anymore and there is no point in trying to work at things as he doesnt think it will work. I have been in pieces about it and struggling - I tried to get him to come home and tried to show him we had a good life together (we were not having any problems just general everyday things). I believe life has got on top of him and he is stuck in a rut with things (he doesnt do anything outside our relationship where as I do) and he has just left blaming me for everything.
Anyway - I was struggling and the support on here and from family and friends has been great - everyone has said the same thing though - show him that you are getting on with your life.........so this evening I have bagged and box everything of his up and am planning on giving it to him tomorrow at his parents house (where he has ran back to). I am nervous though (very nervous in fact) everytime I have shown him that I am trying to be strong he gets really arsey and says things to me that he knows will really upset me but I am guessing (and my relate counseller who I am seeing alone :( agrees) that this is a reaction of me being strong.
In all honesty I want my husband to wake up and realise what an idiot he has been and want to work on things as I love him so much and want my life with him to continue, however I am just wondering whether giving him his stuff back will mean that this wont ever happen and just wondered whether you think I am doing the right thing??? I am basically trying to have the motto at the moment of - get on with life for me and my son and if my husband comes home bonus - if not I am part way there to moving on / recovering - does that make sense. Plus my general thinking is - he left us saying he doesnt want to be here so why should his stuff be???
Any comments or advice would be greatly appreciated - am I doing the right thing???? xxxxx
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Packed up his stuff - what do you think??
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kate1984 · 09/07/2011 21:00
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