Mum was diagnosed with Alzheimers some years ago aged about 63. She is now 70 and still going but increasingly demented. My father has always been a difficult man, and was a terrible father, seemingly taking pleasure in bullying and threatening his 3 children. I suffered from eating problems for years, then major depression. My siblings seemingly got away lightly. Until now.
My 1st brother is married to a woman with severe mental health problems and probable personality issues. My brother has 2 children with her and doesn't get to see them. Nor do any other members of the family. He is on the brink of suicide.
My father is not looking after my mother properly and this is driving friends and family to distraction. The pair are being avoided because my father will not listen to anyone.
My other brother is being leant on by my father and my brother for support, which he is in no position to give. He cannot support himself and is a step away from homelessness.
All of us children have spent our lives struggling to find any sense of worth, and it is devastating to see the edifice crumbling in such a horrible way.
My mother used to tell me to keep well away from the family as my father behaved so badly towards me. Now she is so vulnerable I really don't know where I stand.
Sorry. I just don't really know what to think. In middle age, I am only just about turning a corner and longing to find ways to live instead of ways to die.
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My parental family is in meltdown. It's horrible.....
snaaiiiilmaaaaiiiilll · 02/06/2011 19:03
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