Hi,
have been in very messy relationship with father of DS. We haven't lived together, lots of emotional abuse, EA that turned into real one etc. I do want him back (no comments on rights or wrongs of that one pls). But need to rely on him for childcare and tbh think I want to see him or to test that he is still committed to DS. My MIL is helpful sometimes as intermediary.
Anyway last weekend, I saw him while he was looking after DS, stayed the night and was told the OW was coming round in the morning. Set condition that she didn't see DS but relented when told he would be at mine that night. All ok, but then DS (he's 3) let on he and ex had spent the day with OW and been to her house. All went up in flames. He has not told her truth about us either. So pretty messy.
No idea where me and ex are but wondering is my demand that DS doesn't spend time with OW reasonable? MiL seems to think that's ok. But his standoff is not to see DS. We go round in circles. Boundaries need to be set re DS and OW etc but what should they be?
Open to suggestions. Anyone been in such a mess as this before?
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alonely · 22/05/2011 20:11
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