I saw signs of hyporcrite behaviour early on tbh but its really starting to grate on me now. Examples include:
I had a car that was quite messy (2 teenage boys, I'm not exactly houseproud, the car took to brunt of the situation) and eventually it gave up the ghost and I had to get rid. I then got another car and DP said to me "you need to try and keep this one tidy, it's not difficult, just do what I do and take out your rubbish everytime you get out of the car." However his car is a bleeding tip!! I was in it yesterday and he has crisps packets, used tissues, coke cans etc etc all stuffed everywhere!
Another one was that he told me I shouldn't allow my kids to leave their belongings all over the house as it was disrespectful. However, I went to his house yesterday and his own daughters stuff is ALL OVER the place!! hairbrush, laptop charger, PE bag = all thrown around the living room and even a pair of her knickers chucked on the landing at the top of the stairs!!
A couple of months ago it was my son's birthday and DP said "I wouldn't spend much on birthdays personally, it doesn't do them any favours to get stuff chucked at them like that. However it was his daughters birthday yesterday and he bought her a mobile phone, an xbox with the kinect and two kinect games all totalling around £400!!!
He's always going on at me about my house and mess etc yet whenever I go across to his house unplanned his is worse than mine, same with the car! Another one was that he asked me not to go and see a specific movie with my son as he really wanted to see it too and thought we should all go together. So I specifically didn't take DS on its release day like I'd planned to only to learn he'd taken his daughter that night anyway!
All other aspects of the relationship are fine. It's just this that is REALLY starting to grate.
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DP Is So Hypocritical
Lorenz · 20/05/2011 09:58
Well with regards to the car - I said "you talk about me! look at the state of your car!" and he said "erm you can hardly talk about mess considering the state of your old car"
With the house I said to him yesterday "I see (his dd) is just as bad as my boys for leaving stuff around the house eh?" and he says "not really, she was in a rush this morning, anyway you're hardly one to talk!"
The cinema thing was calmly explained with "but DD wanted to see it the night it came out" err so did my son!!
He just turns everything back on me, like the car and the house etc he says I have no room to talk because I'm constantly messy whereas his mess is "occasional" and "rare" 
He sounds lovely . Be very very glad you aren't living together - think how much worse he'd be! It's not a little niggle, he's a complete hypocrite and the chances are the longer you're with him, the more he'll feel free to criticise you.
This is far worse than hypocrisy.
When you've rationally challenged his unfair comments and behaviour, he re-projects his issues onto you?
He's a fuckwit, plain and clear and his divisive behaviour is a means to an end.
Divide and conquer. He's not family material, not even boyf (i.e. your free time) material. He's a walking talking head worm!
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