It's been the same for years. They only include us when it involves money or looking good in front of other relatives. After years of trying to ignore it and making a big effort with presents and phone calls, even though it has never made any difference to what they give our children in an effort not to feel excluded, we have now finally gavin up as the children are older and have started noticing themselves. DP parents are the same (ie nan and gramdad)buying special things for the others and we would find out because it would come out in conversations.
Just really upset because once again they are doing it in a big way. Including us now it suits them. We have tried to say go ahead without us but are being made to look bad (an aunt and uncle have made comments). They know nothing of our circumstances, never been interested (ie when you mention something it's like they never remembered you telling them before) and why should we have to explain our situation when they only tell us what suits. There are lots of things over the years that we have suddenly found out in conversations months or years later. It is embarrassing and upsetting.
Thank you for your time just needed to offload because this time we are really struggling and they have things planned which are putting us under long-term pressure.
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joyousthings · 13/05/2011 12:36
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