Have moved this over from AIBU.
Been on MN for the last six months and just plucked up the courage to ask this as it's weighing on my conscience massively and I truly don't know what to do for the best.
I have a baby and I don't know who his father is. There are two possible men: one who I know, but who has a long term girlfriend; and the other is a random, very drunken one-night-stand, so drunken that I don't even remember his name or much else that would help find him.
My baby is now several months old and I have never told Man 1 that he might be his or found Man 2. Man 1 was in communication when I was pregnant asking about due dates etc, but not heard a peep since baby was born. A little part of me thinks he might be worried he's the father but is not doing anything about it, as I haven't brought it up (and it would cause huge problems for him).
My initial plan (such as it is!) was not to tell Man 1 there was a chance it was his baby, unless he asked and not to find Man 2 (not sure I'd even know where to start tbh).
But, as time is wearing on and as I think about how my baby deserves to know who his father is, and that I am potentially depriving a father of a good relationship with his child... I'm wondering if I've made the right decision and am being reasonable.
So, please help me! I think I am being unreasonable to a certain extent, but I don't know how to fix it without hurting lots of people. As far as I'm concerned the most important person in all of this is my baby, so I need to make sure that whatever I decide is in their best interest.
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DorisDoesntDance · 10/05/2011 23:31
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