ggggrrrrr my mother.

[tookoolforskool]

yet another family event ended in argument.
Lovely family bbq etc.. Brother there with his newish gf who once she is about mother only talk to her and ignores everyone else. well she decided to impress ( cant think why else) this girl by telling her she had come up with a good idea for my DD.

DD is not really listening to anything i say at the momment, she just doesnt hear what i say. or doesnt listen. Or just plain ignores it. Mother came up with this red card system like they have at school and told the gf.

Brother then pipes up ( hes 23) that if we had not listended we would have got a smack and then we would have learnt.

I said that i dont believe in smacking. they come back with that they know ive smacked DD once or twice and i admit that i have, but it doesnt work, only escelates the problem, is only an indicator that ive lost control and actually, since she carries on doing the same thing, that it actually doesnt work and that ignoring her, or sending her to her room is better...

the follows a massicve argument from my mother and brother about how corproal punishment in schools and from police men is whats best and how i need to wise up and will soon change my tune if here are ' some little shits' holding up my daughters education and they should be hit with a cane or slipper.

I tried several times to just say that i disagreed, but did not want to argue, but they kept on and on and on and in the end i got up and said that i would not be discusiing my parenting skills, it was my choice, mum wasnt the best parent in the world either.

calmed down, went back outside, only to be ignored in my own house.

told them all this is the last time ill be hosting easter, they can sort them selves out next year.

am fucked off tbh.

mum does this all the time. she did it to my sister the other month, saying all babies born before 24 weeks should automatically be killed. and then continued to say worse.

so so so sick of it. She wont listen and wont have it that any one can have any opion other than hers.

[nickschick]

Your Mother is an ignorant woman.

In 'our' day those of us that got slapped regularly (i was one) didnt respect our parents we feared them I dont want that for my dc.

In school slippers or the cane isnt the answer there have always been children that disrupt the class and these children that were 'caned' were the ones that live with inability to read and write nowadays,children even if they are disruptive need attention and children all learn differently.

[tookoolforskool]

yep.
i agree.

I was smacked, alot. also with hair brushes, or wooden spoons, or slippers..round the face, hair pulling. all sorts. My siblings, well all apart from my brother all agree it was out of control, wrong, taken too too far and to be honest, not far from abuse.
we were terrified of her. And that lasted well into early 20's. Because she would still physically lash out then.

I will NOT smack my child as a displine measure. Yes, i have done it once or twice, it is wrong and i have appolgiese to her afterwards.

It does nothing bar install fear.

She, and my bbrother, and nobody else there said any thing to disagree with her, said that thats the problem, no displine. she said somethng about a teacher being sacked for man handling a pupil outside to a corridor and throwing somethgn at the pupil. i said too right. thats awful. she said it was right and the child deserved it.

makes me fuming.

Then, if you disaagree she just starts shouting at you.

but i just cant sit there an listen ( and agree by default of not saying anything) to her shit. And dont even get me started on things such as politics, or race, or culture.

Its just ruined another nice day. makes me feel shit.