I've posted this in Chat but someone mentioned I may get better advice here...
I'm a regular poster but namechanged for this, and have posted in here because I hope this will disappear eventually....
Deep breath.
So, I'm not quite sure how to start this, as I've never mentioned this to anyone in my life but, without going into too much detail....when i was young (about 4 and my brother about 6) we were both made to touch another family member. She is a cousin and about 30 years older than me and is also mentally disabled. It only ever happened to me once.
My brother & I have never discussed this and it was about 25 years ago, I have blanked it out (well, until now)
The reason I'm bringing this up now is that my brother is severely depressed, has been for years, drinks alot, cries when he is drunk about his childhood but is never specific, it's causing problems with his own family and we are all so worried.
Could this one episode be the reason for his depression? Could it have happened to him more than once? These are the things that are going through my head....when I tell my parents about this it will devastate them and tear our family apart.
I know I have an obligation to help my brother, but how the hell do I start this - I live 230 miles away from him, I can't talk to him on the phone - I've only just spoke to DP about this and broke down in tears!
It's all a mess, I would have taken this to my grave if I'm being honest but now I have an obligation to help my brother - if this is in fact the root of his problems...
Help....
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How do I approach my brother about what happened?
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worldsapart · 07/04/2011 21:49
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