I dunno whether this is a deal breaker or something I am going to have to grin and bear!
Me and dp have been togther 9 years and have 2 dc under 5..
I am someone, who wears my heart on my sleeve and in touch with my emotions and like to talk about problems/feelings and would rather have everything out in the open and to talk and express fellings.
My dp on the other hand, bottles everything and refuses to talk about anything that closey resembles feelings or emotions.
We have been through a lot in the last year or so, and if i so much as try to talk to him about anything, he closes up, gets nasty, tells me to shut up, in not so many words, says theres not gonna be a converstaion and to get on with it, and thats it, end of converstaion! leaving me fustrated, and tearful.
Over the years I have battled with this and reached a point that i too started to bottle things up, or probably more to the fact, keep quiet!
Can a relationship carry on like this? the physical side of the relationship is starting to fall apart, ie kissing, cuddling, sex!.. I just feel that if we cannot connect together mentally or emotionaly, I find myself not wanting to be physical. DP, cant understand this! he says that I must not love him anymore, but I just feel that im being disrespected by not being allowed to express emotions. :(
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sometotalkto · 13/03/2011 12:58
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